To have not bothered corresponding through Vinted?

[Hintedonvinted]

Did I make a faux pas?

Bought some things on Vinted and the seller messaged me to let me know she’d sent them - I wasn’t in any rush so thought ok, great. They arrived, all was fine and so I thought feedback was updated automatically. Next thing I know I’m getting messages saying ‘no communication’ followed by lots of sad faces. I find I get a LOT of messages and notifications on Vinted so I don’t always keep up with them but wondering if I just had a needy seller or I did something wrong?

This is why I don't buy things on Vinted any more. I hate having to send the number of messages I send every day to people I actually know or semi-know (eg parents in WhatsApp groups). The last thing I want to do is send faux-personal chatty messages to people who are (to me) selling an item I want to buy at a decent price. If I want to have a chat I'll go to a local secondhand shop and chat. If I buy something online I want to pay for it, have it arrive, and that's the end of it. Appreciate that other people don't all feel the same way...

I definitely wouldn't expect a private message, but not getting feedback can be irritating if you don't sell often anyway. Yeah, 8 times out of 10 it's "great seller" but I read ratings and prefer to buy an item off someone who sends stuff out quickly/packaged well, over another seller who just has auto-feedback.

I always click confirm as soon as I've opened the parcel so the seller gets their money
I then add feedback, thanking the seller

I have only recently started buying some things on Vinted (maybe 6 purchases in total), and have sold 3 dresses recently - so I am no expert. Maybe I am lucky, but everything I have bought has been lovely, well packaged, and far nicer (and cheaper than I could have bought from a charity shop). I too have sometimes had messages giving me an update of where they are "Sorry did not post this last night, but OH has just sent it on way to work" type thing. to which you can simply reply, thank you, no worries, - it is a 2-second job. Then you click to confirm all is OK so they get the money - I also did feedback - I was genuinely really happy. Another 2 second job - I must admit when I posted the first dress I sold, I did not tell them it was on its way, but I did on the second two (and did not really expect a response) but the buyers both let me know they had received it and they loved them, and I was really pleased because they had been sitting in my wardrobe for years and it was nice to think that someone was going to wear them, and my wardrobe was just a bit tidier. I think about the other person sitting parcelling up my item so it gets to me safe, and then going to the deposit box and placing it in. I was pleased someone had bought my dresses, and was happy to sit parcelling them up, and posting on. I would not have minded just getting the money, but getting nice feedback was a bonus. Clearly, I have had good experiences, but when you are transacting with a real person one to one selling their own items, is a thank you too much to ask ????

I always click to confirm everything is OK as soon as stuff arrives and leave feedback at the same time , it takes seconds

It’s not a gift though is it? It’s a transaction where both parties benefit.

If I get a message from the seller to say item is on its way I tend to reply with thank you. I also have a short standard positive feedback comment I will add when all is ok.

If you don’t understand the difference between a global corporation such as Amazon and a single person selling things on Vinted, I’m not sure shopping online is for you!

No.

This should have been in your OP. As long as you confirm receipt, they are being unreasonable to ask any more of you.

What’s the difference then? I sell a lot of my clothes on eBay etc. I don’t expect buyers to thank me 🤣

Just the thought of sending messages with lots of sad faces and ‘no communications’ messages to my buyers is making me cringe.

That’s more what I meant. I leave a thank you in the feedback.

@Hedgeoffressian no it’s not a gift but you would say thank you in a cafe or shop. A latte on the way to work isn’t a gift but I thank the lady who served it.

I don't particularly mind if the buyer doesn't reply to any messages. It's nice when they do but I would never leave negative feedback or sad faces if not! It is different to Amazon isn't it though? It's just private individuals and there's something quite personal about second hand clothes, especially baby clothes. But there's no obligation to chat much if someone doesn't want to.