to be annoyed with my friend/childminder?

[JellyNump]

I'm a single mum and work full time. I live with my parents after splitting last year from ex H. Mum has DD on the daysshe isn't working and my auntie, who died last Nov, had DD on tues/weds/thurs when my mum works.
My friend is a nanny and DD and the little girl she looks after are friends after going to play group together. When my auntie died I asked my friend if I could use her to look after DD on the days mum is at work, unless I can get a day off on one of those days (which I try to do). I pay her to look after DD as the other family do to look after their DD. On Saturday night my friend txt to say she isn't around on Weds as she and her Mum have things to do and she will be too busy and forgot to tell me!!?!?! I know I am not able to have Weds as my day off this week, so am now stuck. If worst comes to worst Mum may be able to ask to change a day or have a day off. I am actually quite annoyed by this as it is her job and I cannot call into work to say I won't be in as i'm too busy! I know the other family have an 'evening' nanny so i'm not sure if she will be doing the whole day for them. Also my Mum said the other day when my friend dropped off DD she said she was 'doing me a favour' by looking after her! I don't need someone to 'do me a favour' I need someone to have DD when i'm at work and when I pay them for doing it! I'm really cross!

First of all you may have to claim "time off for dependents" from work on Wednesday. You are entitled to the odd unpaid day off in situations like this. Obviously that is the last resort but they can't treat you unfavourably for it.

Secondly please look into a Childminder who you are not emotionally envolved with. I have seen 2 good friends fall out more than once over similar arrangements.

Sounds very unclear as to what the legal position of the person providing the childcare is. As they provide some of the care at their own home - if that care is for 2 hours or more in any day, then they MUST register as a Childminder, assuming they are in England. This is a different registration to a Nanny, though both registration schemes are administered by Ofsted. Providing care at her mums home, seems odd.

The strange setup of locations, plus the unprofessional attitude, makes me think you are far better off finding someone else.
Contact your local Children's Information Service on Monday for the latest list of childminder vacancies in your area. Never know your luck, you may be able to meet someone the same day, and start on Wednesday. ChildcareLink also lists some childminders, though not all. Worth having a look though, as you may be able to contact some tonight via e-mail.

Another thought for Wednesday - are there any local nurseries? Some nurseries will take children on an ad-hoc basis.

laughalot who do you work for?

Depending on where you live there may be an agency offering emergency child care. In fact if you check www.emergency childcare.co.uk they may have something available. It is expensive, but means you won't miss a day at work and allows you time to get a different arrangement inplace. I agree with everyone else, this isn't working and its time to change.

Hi jelly I work for midlands co-op travel.

oh ok, i'm a bright pink First Choice agent!

Hee hee I actually like that uniform better than ours. We have a first choice where I work.

it is very bright and pink. we dont get the pink skirts tho like the airline, we have navy blue!

It doesn't sound like she wants to do it. First she says she's doing you a favour and now she lets you down like this.
Did she feel like she couldn't say no to you asking her but didn't really want to it so sort of views it as a favour?

Not that I know, it's just a bit wierd. And do you know that she's not lookinhg after the other child on wednesday?