Aibu to ask how you work on your self esteem!!

[toopoorfortherapy]

As my new name shows I am severely brassic. I have adhd and menopausal rage.
Struggling
with life
with elderly parents
with keeping income coming in
with my weight
With the mess in my house
with everything
With social life as no money and keep hiding away
How do I build my self esteem?
When everything seems so 💩

Really sorry to hear this. I replied to your original post and I felt a bit teary reading this thread back. My mum died 3 months ago after a long period of my caring for her (living 2 hours away). Although I miss her loads, I don't miss the juggling act. It's been a relief not to split my time and drive back and forth and I couldn't have carried out without burning out for much longer. Her quality of life was awful and that was having an impact i hadn't appreciated on my general mood.

Ive also decided to start mounjaro (weight loss injections) which i have yet to lose weight on (1 month in) but it has done wanders my my adhd type distraction/ procrastination type symptoms and reduced the migraines i was getting. House is still messy but I forgive myself - ive been sorting my mums funeral and her house out.

My point is - it's very difficult to make changes when you are in the thick of keeping the plates spinning. I didn't have room to breathe when I wrote the first post. If there is any way you can get a break - either from work, or help with your parents, or house - take it!

@Eyeballpaula I am sorry about your mum : how are you doing?
Part of me can be rational.
Recognise I am lucky in many ways
But equally I am spending life with my loins constantly girded for the next crisis and with no room for much joy
I crave connection but feel needy when I do
Can't commit to things and feel left out when not included
Got a job but hate it

I could have written this post!
Check out Dr. Louise Newson and the Balance app for menopause. Also how menopause affects ADHD. ADHD Chatter has an interesting podcast on this.
Focus on wellbeing: healthy eating, quality sleep and exercise.
Build from there.