I'm sure he was just trying to help but it came out of the blue.
We work together and are both friends with another man there. About 6/7 months ago I was interested in man #2.
He seemed interested too but then suddenly went cold what seemed like overnight, I tried to maintain a friendship but it was all very hot and cold and it was distressing so I put a bit of space between us and explained I liked him. He told me he didn't want to get involved as we work in the same department.
Some friends I told rushed to tell me it was just an excuse, I couldn't know for sure but either way I just accepted whatever he said and moved on.
Friend 1 always thought that man 2 liked me and tried to set me up with him before I even knew him. Apparently the man had said nice stuff about me to our mutual friend (which doesn't mean a lot)
Anyway fast forward almost half a year later I've moved on. I'm not dating anyone but I'm interested in someone else. I still work with man 2, we're on friendly terms but not close, he goes out of his way to avoid me a bit, like he's perfectly polite and friendly but would never initiate a conversation himself so I just hardly bother with him anymore.
Last night friend 1 texted me out of nowhere asking what's going on with me and this man these days. I replied absolutely nothing and there never has been, that's all long gone.
He replied 'I know he says he doesn't want anything but I think that's because he thinks you don't want anything serious and he's just worried about work, but you've had 2 job interviews so in my opinion you should try and strike up a fresh conversation and it could lead to something good.'
I just replied saying that man 2 had clearly not been interested back in January, or maybe he was then wasn't but I will never know, and reminded him of the work thing.
He hasn't replied yet but I've no intention of doing this.
Man 2 would clearly be letting me know if he'd changed his mind. I'm looking for a new job because I'm buying a house and will need a higher income, also my company are stopping overtime soon and I depend on it financially.
I am a bit upset after this convo as it just reminded me of everything. I think my friend was just being nice, though I've literally not mentioned this man to my friend in almost half a year so no idea where it all came from, if anything I've mentioned other men.