To go for lunch on my own?

[Umbrellala]

I have no plans today, DH working and everyone who I might usually see is busy.

Pregnancy cravings are a thing and I really fancy lunch at a restaurant in town, and then a potter to the bookshop to buy a new book. Would it look weird if I was sat in the restaurant on my own? It’s not an overly formal place.

Would you think twice or judge someone if you saw them on their own?

YABU - honestly, yes I would judge
YANBU - not at all, go for it

Definitely go! Especially if it's your first baby as you won't get much time to yourself once baby comes..

I would go to the book shop first then I had something to read.
I often go for lunch myself oh has a disability and sometimes can't leave the house.

I promise you, nobody thinks it’s odd or takes any notice of people dining alone, loads of people do it. I do it. Especially now we have loads of coffee shops everywhere, you can’t go in one without seeing someone beavering away on a laptop then having their lunch and carrying on afterwards.
Treat yourself. There’s no need to miss out on what you fancy doing because nobody can go with you. I went to Rome on my own for a week and had a lovely time and nobody cared at all that I was sat in restaurants eating alone. It was great 😊

I sometimes sneak out of work via another department at lunchtime so I can eat on my own in total peace. I swear I am not a weirdo.

God yes. Go now and go often!

Yabu to say sat, when it should be sitting. (Yes I know, I know...) but you are certainly not remotely u to have lunch on your own. Who gives a fuck what a total stranger is doing? Just please yourself and enjoy, OP!

If I saw you eating alone the only judging I would do is how jealous I am that I'm not getting to do the same.

Yep, this is a fantastic example of the sneering attitude on Mumsmet against anyone who isn't partnered up that we should feel shame for wanting to enjoy the same leisure activities as those with boyfriends and husbands.
"Spinster" isn't a word that is used much any more but the derisory attitude is everywhere. Always the threads about travelling alone or dining alone being something for weirdos. Apparently one should remain at home and knit in the parlour.

the only people looking at you are the envious ones.

I love going out for a meal alone!
book, maybe a podcast + headphones.
bliss!

Same. I have cut down the frequency of solo holidays now I’m away 50% of the time. But I love my space.

I've seen ppl have lunch on their own and always wish I had the guts to do that!! I don't see it as weird having lunch on ur own, perfectly normal, I overthink situations and think others would be thinking why is she on her own! When in reality ppl don't really care.

Why would it need guts?

Would you think twice or judge someone if you saw them on their own?

Would you think twice or judge someone sitting on their own? If not why do you think other people would? It's a bit of a negative way of thinking.

I eat out on my own but don't tend to go to fancy places as they don't tend to be where I want to eat and I think I might feel a little less comfortable on my own somewhere fancy. Otherwise I will eat on my own without feeling uncomfortable. I'm comfortable going into most pubs on my own too although I'm sure there are ones that I wouldn't feel comfortable in,

I am sorry but this is just indescribably wet.

Sounds like heaven to me.

@ouch321 did you miss I was being sarcastic? Clearly.

I assumed they were acknowledging your sarcasm and agreeing with you.

I find threads like these utterly baffling. Who cares what other people think? Why would anyone even notice someone having a bit of lunch? It's just such a non problem

I can’t believe there are people out there that have to ask questions like this. Sorry if that sounds really judgmental. Just genuinely quite surprised you’d have to ask if you would look weird going out on your own.

How do you think single women cope 🙄

There have been a number of these threads lately, shall I go to the theatre on my own etc. I am in my 60s and I and my friends have been dining alone when we fancied it since our 20s. I despair that young women (presumably fairly young if you are pregnant) think along these lines. Sometimes I think we are going backwards with women's independence.

I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Go for it! It’s bliss. I’m off in a min for a solo swim followed by a solo coffee. Solo holiday booked for later this year.

Don’t let some weird internal hang ups stop you doing what you actually want to do!

Is it really possible that someone could reach the age of being married & pregnant & yet never have had a lunch alone? That's so strange to me.

Go have your lunch & enjoy the bookshopping!

I would go to a place your DH wouldn’t like or to the place you’d like “to check” before going together as a surprise.
Or any place you like ! Enjoy 😉

I was having the same thoughts yesterday. Which is odd because for years I virtually lived in hotels and ate on my own every day.