We were meant to go out with a group of colleagues, arrived and one of them hadn't turned up, so I asked another friend if she was coming.
She said no, she messaged me saying she's not well/has some sort of bug.
I said oh that's a shame, and then we carried on with our night.
A bit later on I messaged the woman who didn't come saying 'Sarah said you haven't been too well, sorry to hear that, get well soon!'
She said thank you and that she was getting there.
The next time I saw her at work she asked 'How did you know I was ill?' I replied that I'd asked where you were at the meal and Sarah mentioned.
She looked at me a bit funny and said 'Oh, I usually don't tell many people when I'm ill.' and that was it.
I could understand if we were disclosing personal medical info but it was literally normal conversation. Is X person coming, no they're ill.
Isn't it something that friends do, say to each other, sorry you're unwell, get better soon?
The other week a friend's parent died and I messaged her offering my condolences. Now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have done that either.
Without sounding past it, I feel like people are offended at the very slightest things and it never used to be like this.