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Son hoovering food

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thetaleoflife · 01/06/2024 22:10

My son is 11, he quite literally inhales his food! It's quite frustrating, I've only sat down with my plate, I look in his direction and he's already on his last bite. And no he didn't have a small portion. The other kids still have almost all their food on their plates still, couple of years younger, they don't have issue with food and eat at a normal pace.

It sounds like he's out of breath whilst eating, like he's gone out running and came home, he's just eaten food, why is he out of breath and acting all tired? I've told him numerous times, to slow down and take his time whilst eating, there is no rush and he is causing himself to get tired by eating so fast. He even chugs water down, instead of sipping which causes him to choke on the water. I do wonder what he eats like at school!

The problem is he gets annoyed and angry at me for telling him to eat properly at a normal pace and use a napkin to keep face clean whilst eating. I feel he's setting a bad example to the rest of the kids and also at a loss at why he eats like that, where has he picked this up from as we don't eat like that or deprive him of food. Even when we go out to eat, I have to remind him to eat slowly and nicely! He's 11 not 5! So it is really frustrating.

Funnily enough it reminds me of my brother growing up! My dad would tell him off for inhaling food. My son hasn't picked it from my brother though as he lives in a different country, we don't see him at all.

Any help suggestions on how I can manage this? I'm thinking of putting a timer on and he shouldn't finish before the timer ends? But I also do worry about making it a massive deal which leads to problem with food later on in life.

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CatamaranViper · 01/06/2024 22:12

I do this! I've got an app for my Fitbit that counts so I can only put another fork/spoon full I'm my mouth once a minute. It's frustrating as hell but it's helped loads.

It's much harder to judge when you're full when you eat fast.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 01/06/2024 22:15

Leave him alone. Nobody needs somebody else criticising them for eating - it's counterproductive, as it'll make them even more desperate to get the food down so they can escape from being trapped 3 foot away from the person looking at them with disgust.

Ourshoddyhouse · 01/06/2024 22:15

I'm a fast eater... To quote Friends
"If you didn't eat fast, you didn't eat"

saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/06/2024 22:19

Is he allowed to get up from the table after he’s done?

My DH is like this but I do cut him a bit of slack because he’s a firefighter and has learned to eat quick while on shift. I still say something about it to remind him he won’t have to get up and run from the table at home… but it’s a hard habit for him to break.

BeachHutsAndDeckchairs · 01/06/2024 22:21

My ds, who has adhd, does this.

SocksAndTheCity · 01/06/2024 22:24

He is eating his food, not 'literally inhaling' it. If he was inhaling it he'd be coughing like fuck.

thetaleoflife · 01/06/2024 23:00

He actually does cough excessively when he's eaten too fast. There's been many times where I've been genuinely concerned only to realise he's out of breath due to eating too quickly. He's my son, I'm not being mean to him. The way I've written here isn't what I would say to his face. I've been very nice about it, but it's falling on deaf ears. I'm not sat at the dinner table watching over him.

When we eat out, he finishes way before us. I'm not kidding you, the food has arrived I've taken a few bites, then start talking to the kids to ask if they are enjoying it and he's already finished. However on those occasions I haven't said anything to him about why he has eaten so quick, instead I've offered him more food, we always have plenty to go round and still have leftovers, so again it's not like he's worried he won't get much. If he is full, he will say so.

The poster that asked, can they leave the table once they have eaten, yes they can. There's no more tv time after dinner, so they'll read a book, play games, puzzle and they'll tidy before bed time, so nothing exciting to get up to. Likewise after lunch on non-school days, we will go out as a family for activities or would have lunch whilst out, so I don't feel he's in any hurry to go do anything away from the table. We have a tv in the dining room, I do let them watch tv whilst eating at the table sometimes, and even then he's eaten very quickly.

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brunettemic · 01/06/2024 23:03

🙄 pre teen eat his food fast, it’s hardly a shocker…it’s also not his responsibility (in my opinion) to set an example for his siblings, it’s up to you to parent them.

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