Sexually harassed by ex - how to handle it

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me and ex share DS(7) and we split 4 years ago.

We split mainly due to his abuse - emotional and sexual. But he cannot / will not accept any of his behaviour as abusive.

after we split he and his family made my life hell, threats, fake social services calls, calling my work etc etc. things have finally settled down and we are able to coparent fairly smoothly

the issue is, in the past few months he has started sexually harassing me and it seems to be getting more frequent.

some examples are, groping me, telling me about sex dreams / fantasies he's had about me, telling me about looking at old nudes he has of me, flashing his penis.

all of this is obviously very upsetting and stressful for me, and I don't know what to do. If I try and talk about it he won't see anything he's done as wrong, it'll be pressed as an accident, he thought I wanted it, I'm playing the victim etc etc

im also worried with things being so calm if I do anything to rock the boat he will go back to making my life a misery.

sorry this has been so long, just looking for advise about how people would handle the situation

Report it all to the police. He sounds like a dangerous sexual predator. I don’t think your child should be left alone with him either. Seems like he gets a kick out of exposing your child to his sexual behaviour- this is child abuse too

Can't believe the posts on here about OP letting it happen it's shameful to victim blame. OP it's not your fault and you should not have to put up with it. It's nothing to do with you having low self esteem or not being firm you are not to blame at all. Can you get someone else to do handovers for a while and communicate via email/text only? I know it's not simple as you are co-parenting but it might be helpful to put some distance between you to see if he backs off. If he doesn't I would consider speaking to the police as maybe them having a word will help him back the f* off.

He knows your scared and he's pushing the boundaries. His behaviour is escalating. I'm worried for your safety. Have you got a ring doorbell? It might be worth setting up emergency alert on your phone. I think you can set it up to record and send you location.

The dressing gown thing obviously inappropriate but at a stretch I could maybe see as him thinking that you've seen it before anyway if you've got a child together so it probably wouldn't bother you that much, but then rather than having someone else do the drop offs for you and risk him escalating I think just take someone else with you so you've got a witness.

Can posters stop blaming the OP's self-esteem? This man is repeatedly sexually assaulting her, she's not doing anything to encourage this behaviour. Please provide empathy and solutions, or just leave the thread.

I agree with this poster, it does sound like it's escalating from what you've said. Their advice about those emergency recording apps are really good. Hollie Guard is highly recommended https://hollieguard.com/