Never do this sort of thing but feel like I have no where else to vent.
For context, my partner and I have been together 12 years. Our oldest is 6 and youngest is 6 months. We have our own home and lived together for 11 years.
I love him dearly but he’s hard work. It’s like having a third child. He’s a chef so he’s never home. I’m not bothered about doing all the housework (I clean better anyway). He’ll sleep till 11 on his days off. Then have another nap about an hour later. I’ve never known someone to sleep as much.
Hes never had to do anything since our youngest was born. I only ask for help for doing things like the garden (I’m terrible at it) general maintenance I can’t do myself but it’s takes him weeks. It drives me mad.
Emotionally he’s not there for me. Parenting wise he does the opposite of what I try to do. His solution is to buy her off when she’s being difficult. I’m exhausted. He tries to have sex and I just can’t do it. Im so tired and drained but then he gets mad and sleeps downstairs. He also drinks beer every night and gets drunk most nights. It really puts me off.
im really low. I’m on mat leave, it’s lonely. Feel like a single parent. He’s only interested when it’s bedtime. I’m not the same person I was before. Feel like my 6 year old is now getting the brunt of it and I feel awful.
I don’t know what to do. I’ve brought this up to him many times and he’s good for a week but then goes back to being his old self.
I think he believes because I’m not at work, he shouldn’t have to do anything. I don’t get a break. I even have to ask permission to go for a bath when he gets home.
I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable just feel so alone. Feel like I’m better off on my own without having any expectations of someone.
Not sure is any of that makes sense I’m just having one of those I can’t hide it days.