To think a bunch of flowers is a good enough housewarming present?

[Peonii]

Friend is having a housewarming party tomorrow. Because of certain other developments I sort of forgot it was a housewarming party.
She's had twins and we've not been able to catch up, so I've bought clothes for the twins, a toy for her 2 year old son and a little gift for her (she likes spa things, so I've got her a giftset from her face spa brand). They've been in this house for about 6 years and reasons like pandemic, babies and refurb means they're only just doing the housewarming party. The reason I mention it is because I think that's why I forgot what tomorrow was about (I forgot it was a "new house"). Anyway given I've already got the other gifts, is it sufficient if I get a card and flowers as the housewarming gift part or should I try find something a bit more like a vase or photo frame or something?

I would say she is a fairly good friend of mine but we don't see each other much anymore because our lives post baby are crazy and we also don't live that close to each other (at least an hour's drive).

YABU - Buy a proper housewarming gift, flowers are not good enough
YANBU - you've bought enough gifts, flowers are sufficient

You're totally fine, sounds like you've got lots of lovely thoughtful things so it doesn't need to be a Proper Housewarming Gift. Especially as she's lived there for so long - I think that automatically makes it less formal.

The pandemic affected everyone, it would be ridiculous if everyone tried to backdate and claim all gifts they may have missed out on because of it. Anyway, covid was 4 years ago, not 6.

You have bought her plenty of gifts. If she isn’t happy with that she is being utterly unreasonable. Go have a good time and don’t worry about it.

Alongside your other thoughtful gifts, flowers are absolutely fine. Lucky her!

You’ve already spent a lot of money and tbh it’s bloody ridiculous to be having a house warming party this long after moving in.

6 years and she's having a housewarming!? That's absolutely ridiculous! Flowers are lovely. Sounds like an excuse for ber to get some presents tbh

The only thing I would add would be a gift for her partner if she has one. You’ve bought gifts explicitly for her and the children but nothing for the partner. It can even be a box of chocolate for everyone to share but hand it to them. Other than that, you’re good. 🙂

Absolutely perfect what you’re giving, flowers just finishes it all off. I’d be delighted

Sounds perfect.

I don't know, I think I would be overwhelmed with the amount of gifts you have already bought tbh.
Are you sure they are not just calling it a housewarming party, ie surely after 6 years they have a toaster and champagne glasses and don't need anything gifting?

I’d get a plant rather than flowers but that’s fine. It’s not a housewarming if it’s six years after she moved in!

I never do this tbh. If she is my friend, i buy her stuff, i buy the kids stuff, we never buy stuff for our partners.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a unanimous YANBU in the votes before now. I also wouldn’t buy for the partner. If you haven’t got the flowers already, I wouldn’t buy them but that’s just because I found flowers with a newborn just another thing to care for so depending on the age of the twins it might fall into that category.

For me flowers would be the perfect gift. I absolutely hate it when people give me stuff they think I’d like, especially for my home, and even worse if they’ve made something themselves.

ive got various stuff shoved in cupboards or spare room that people thought would look good in my house but I hate and I don’t want to offend them.

The recipient doesn’t need to think about the flowers or stress about where to put them or how long they can get away with keeping them before regifting or bunging to charity.

I'm wondering if it's too late for us to throw a housewarming party - been here over a decade. Come to think of it, I forgot to hold one for the old house too.

I second the plant suggestion. A bit more permanent and saves them having to faff around putting flowers in water while guests are arriving.

It's not a housewarming party. They have been there 6 years!!!

You've bought LOADS and it's not a housewarming when the house is warmed for 6 years!

Men can have flowers too

No need to buy anything else

Many thanks all for the advice. I've just had another thought. They have a dog - I don't have pets but I think there's some flowers which are per unfriendly. Either way, I'll find a suitable bunch of flowers or plant

@TootGoesTheOwl hopefully not! She also bought me stuff and my DC things when DC was born so hopefully I e struck the balance ok.

Thank you everyone for your advice again.