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To just need to tell people what's happening in my nhs team? *mentions of mh and suicide*

28 replies

Nhswoe · 31/05/2024 22:59

This isn't really an aibu but a ranting of thoughts

I am middle management for a community mental health team and it feels like the walls are crumbling around me and I just don't know what to do.

Today we heard that yet another ex colleague has ended their life. It's becoming horrendously not unheard of, in the last few months two of my staff have spoken to me about suicidal thoughts, I suspect a third is also experiencing them. Every supervision people tell me they are stressed. Our team has a high level of genuine physical illness like cancer, strokes etc and part of me feels like that's also the job killing people

We can't recruit, have empty posts, posts dissappearing and budgets being slashed. Our building is literally falling apart, we don't have the rooms to see people so even if weve had the staff weve had to cancel appointments because we dont have available space, whole floors have been condemend

We know the patient care isn't great. The system heaves under the weight. I spoke to a mum today and I could hear in her voice the fear that everynight she might lose her daughter as she waits a third week for a bed. People awaiting beds are literally disappearing through gaps

It feels like notifications that someone has died while under our care come regularly

It's like a game of spinning plates but there's too many plates, and they are crashing but each crash is a potential death, a loss of a son, mum. I'm worried every week that the next notification will be a member of my staff, one of my patients, or even me

I've got no idea whether to stay within the system and try to humanise it, be the best manager I can or to just walk away and play no part in letting people down.

What on earth do you do?

OP posts:
LoobyDop · 01/06/2024 09:31

RogueFemale · 31/05/2024 23:42

The UK is sad and broken. The whole world is sad and broken and it'll resolve itself soon enough with climate change, and famine and mass migrations.

How is it helping anyone or anything to post this kind of stuff? Here, have a load of my unsolveable misery.

wizarddry · 01/06/2024 09:32

Whilst I am truly sorry for your loss unless you have changed significant detail this is quite outing

daffodilandtulip · 03/06/2024 07:27

NDmumoftwo · 01/06/2024 09:11

This sounds awful. Sorry if naive but what are the HR/ whistleblowing policies like? I would be gathering evidence - putting in writing eg reports of number of appts missed due to no space, days lost due to staff off sick etc.
if that fails the daily mail love this sort of thing. Take it to them.

They're there on paper looking very pretty and perfect; but in reality, you get demoted, moved area, accused of bullying, and your incident forms are deleted.

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