It speaks volumes about the kind of person you are

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I met a dad at the playground around a month ago, my Dd was playing with his Dd and we sat chatting, he was a very nice guy, we really seemed to click in a platonic, friends way. We exchanged numbers for the girls to play together, he wants his Dd to improve her English and I think it would benefit my Dd to learn more of the language of the country we’re in (not U.K.)
We’ve exchanged messages back and forth, but unfortunately haven’t been able to meet up, this is due to our side as Dd has been ill or we’ve been away/busy.
I felt bad for turning down so many invites and was due to possibly meet after school today, but Dd has been ill, so I messaged him to apologise and explained the whole situation about school, as Dd has been not wanting to go to school recently.
He was very supportive and said if it would help to get the girls together, he’d be there and that I didn’t owe him any explanation of course, but that he appreciates me taking time to text him and that it speaks volumes about the kind of person I am.
Is this a really nice thing to say? It’s been a while since someone’s said something like that to me.

Oh dear! I think you need a date night with your actual partner having read your other thread!

@peachesarenom Why?

You say you really clicked in a platonic way and your daughters really got along. I think everything from there on is just you overthinking. I don't see anything wrong with his message, he just sounds nice and polite.

I'm more worried about your motives than his, OP!

It doesn't seem to have occurred to you that his response is polite and courteous. Possibly a bit gushy but, depending on the culture where you are, it could be quite normal to insert a personal compliment when being nice. Even in the standoffish UK, it isn't OTT or inappropriate.

You, on the other hand ... I feel sympathy for your life, if it's as devoid of small kindnesses as you imply. But I'd strongly counsel against looking to one person for the 'social strokes' you need. You'll find that, the more you offer them to others, the more you'll receive. Your home life might need something of a review, however.

As an outsider it looks like either he's too interested or you are op. It's a tad intense sharing messages with a dad of a little girl
You don't know that you met once at a park. Just feels like he's looking for a partner and your maybe interested 🫣

@Garlicked My life is not so devoid of nice things being said to me, I have from my friends, Dd, family etc, just never a guy I met once, I suppose that’s my issue, it does feel a bit weird, but I don’t really have male friends these days, I think it’s just me!

If you have different languages and cultures, the intentions, assumptions and interpretations of “it speaks volumes about the sort of person you are” could be very different and you’re way over thinking this. It’s a very ambiguous phrase which is obviously why you have posted. It could be seen as overly gushy or on the other hand, given the context, it could be a throw away comment meaning something like, “Im not taking it personally as I think you’re a good person”. Are you afraid of making a faux pas, or that he is going to come on to you?

@MostlyGhostly Dont think he’s going to come on to me at all, just being paranoid and wondering if other motives as he’s very keen and I’ve said I can’t around 4 times, wouldn’t you just let it go