I asked my abusive husband to leave last year. He is a bone idle, scrounging parasite who has probably worked for 4 weeks in the past 12 months. I had the misfortune of his mother living here too. Anyway, he left in Aug 23, his mother left in the Sept and got a rented property 120 miles away from where I live. Our youngest son, aged 17, went with them as he secured a place on a Sports and Development course with all his pals in the area they moved to. Obviously, I didn't want my son to leave, however, I just want him to be happy and this is what he wants. I still see him loads, every other weekend and all the holidays, so at least 150 nights a year. I send my son £50 a week, pay his phone contract, xbox subscription and all train fares when he stays with me. Money is not the issue here, I really want to stress that. My ex husband has made a claim via the CMS and they have just deducted 600quid from my salary. I've had to cancel the xbox subscription, stop sending the 50 a week that was helping my son to become independent and in August I will have to cancel his phone contract when it ends. I've told the CMS I pay all this and that I spend lots of time with my son plus I'm a named contact on his college course. I also speak with him daily and still do 'Mum' things. The CMS asked my ex if I see my boy and if I pay all the above, he said no and they took his word for it, just like that?? I've had to collate a ton of evidence to rebut this but I've just not got any faith in the CMS doing the right thing. It is going to get to the point where I won't be able to afford to see him. Does anyone think I'm being unreasonable and I should just pay the benefit scrounging dole dosser 600quid? I can see me and my daughter ending up losing our home 😞