Yes I even married him.
For the first few years I worked really long hours in my own career to to pay for everything because his business made no profit. I didn’t mind because he said we were building a future together.
then gave up my career to help him in his business.
of course I also did everything in the house, because he was working 7 days a week.
Then we had kids and I did absolutely everything for them. He wasn't even there for most of the time I was in labour as he was outside taking urgent work phone calls.
He took no time off work after the kids were born, even after the third when I ended up with a C section. I was home alone after 36 hours with a newborn , a toddler I couldn’t lift and a 4 year old.
He kept promising it would be better in the future, when he got a new employee, when that person was trained or when he got the next one. After he got the next contract. When he opened the new office.
It never happened .
He worked every day except Christmas Day. We never had a family holiday, in the end I took the kids away myself to the Lake District with my sister and her kids.
I got paid £5,000 a year for working for his company and no pension, he said that was better for tax and that we could keep my wages in the company for cash flow and live on his. I worked school hours and then brought work home and did it at night when the kids were in bed.
Then I found out that despite his long hours, he had enough time to shag one of his staff. That all these evenings and weekends working was in fact when he was with her, even the 2 weeks in the USA. But he was too busy to take a weekend off for our kids.
And I also found out that he had given his affair partner a “ loan “ of £50,000 from his business. The business that couldn’t afford to pay me a proper wage or a pension. I was working to line the pockets of his mistress .
He said he was sorry and I forgave him. Not that I had much choice with 3 kids, no savings , no job contact, no employers reference, no savings and no proper salary.
He promised that he would spend more time with me and the kids and work on our marriage. It never happened.
Then I found out about another affair and I divorced him. He got to keep all his business because it was a pre marriage asset. He used the fact that I got paid £5k / year to argue that I did just a few hours a month in his business and that had contributed nothing. In fact , he said that I had sat around on my backside while he supported us all.
He moved his very large pension overseas so I got none of that as well.
In the end I had to pay him for half the house ( £200,000 ) so I could keep a roof over our kids heads.he got to keep his business worth £2M and his pension worth £1.8M.
So I have a house worth £400k with a big mortgage , no savings, a small pension from before I gave up my job and 3 teens to support.
He has £4 Million. So yes a pretty shit divorce settlement .
He’s not paid a penny in child support since he left because he’s self employed. He pays it all to his partner and into his pension instead and just takes a tiny salary.
please @ataloss24 , don’t be as stupid as me. I spent years making all the sacrifices of time and money , I worked all day every day for years. I did it because I loved him and believed him.
While he shagged around and stole money from me and my kids.
He was always a selfish cheating bastard but I couldn’t see the reality , I fell for the dream he was selling me. Don’t be me.