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To maybe spend another day in bed

29 replies

Grumpynan · 31/05/2024 07:58

I’m I’ll, I have the most horrible tummy upset. Started Tuesday night, didn’t want my dinner then an hour later, well let’s not discuss it. I went to bed ( we have separate bedrooms) he went a little later saying he hoped I’m better soon etc. I was up all night.

yesterday I spent the day in bed, feeling washed out, I did manage to go to the kitchen (via the bathroom) and put a load of washing on and stick some stuff in the dishwasher just pottered for a half hour tbh then went and collapsed in bed ( we live in a bungalow and my room is opposite the kitchen)

we’re both retired so he spent the day doing what ever got be a couple of drinks. Late afternoon I wondered make into the kitchen via the bathroom 😥 and got more water, stuck the washing in the dryer and stuck a potato in the airfryer for his dinner and some frozen chilli in a pan for him to heat up ( I’m a good wife 🙄 and tbh was more trying to find something untaxing to do )

I managed to eat some dry toast late evening (loving made by DH 😂) and so far this morning I’m ok, stomach cramps but not ill though don’t want anything to eat.

he now expects me to get up and have a normal day, I’m feeling washed out and don’t see the need to jump out of bed. I probably will later but why shouldn’t I take it easy?

just fir comparison, he’s the sort that always gets up, his mum always said bed was for lazy people. He would have got up yesterday and flopped on the sofa, in my opinion making everyone in the house suffer at least me staying in my room he has the rest of the house without someone dying in the main room

but basically, am I lazy spending longer feeling sorry for myself

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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 31/05/2024 10:48

I’m in bed still, so is Dd.

Dh is working at home . Ds who doesn’t live at home will definitely working from home in his bed.

Maybe we’re a lazy family?😁

Stay in bed as long as you want.

FinallyHere · 31/05/2024 10:54

You are both retired, why is there any expectation that you will make his dinner?

And are you doing his laundry as well as your own? Why? Just why? What household chores does he do in return?

Take as long as you need and want to recover. Once you are well again, time for really quite a serious conversation to reset your relationship.

This is no way to live.

mrsbyers · 31/05/2024 13:33

You’re retired spend all weekend in bed if that’s what you want and let him crack on

stayathomegardener · 31/05/2024 20:18

Place-marking in the hope he succumbs, what an arse.

Stay in bed!

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