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To tell him I spotted his lie

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crimpline · 30/05/2024 19:03

Had lunch with a man today. 2nd date.

At the weekend, a few days after date 1, he'd text me to ask if I'd like to meet for a drink after work. Honestly I was tired after my shift and was a bit non committal as I wasn't sure if it'd go straight home. Ended up meeting some friends at the pub so once I settled on that, I offered him to come down and meet us all.

As it took me about an hour to give a definitive answer, by the time I did reply, he said he was just deciding if he was too tired to go out after all, l and would let me know.

Didn't hear from him again that night and the next day, when I followed up, he said he'd fallen asleep and stayed home.

We were chatting over lunch today and he slipped up and told me all about the fun night he'd had Saturday night. Obviously forgetting he'd told me he'd fallen asleep.

I'm not too bothered. I'd messed him around initially and I guess he'd called around some friends and gone out with them instead!! And then just told me he fell asleep.

Simply curious to know if you'd have mentioned his little slip up, or let it slide? I don't mean whether you'd mention it in an angry way - he's a stranger and owes me nothing. But would you have pointed it out at all?

Not blaming him or upset, just curious as it was on the top of my tongue to lightheartedly point out that he'd told me he'd fallen asleep, but in the end I kept quiet.

OP posts:
NosyJosie · 30/05/2024 19:32

I’d have called him out in a humorous way on the spot as he was clearly otherwise engaged but not mention it now.

youve been out twice - you’re not exclusive yet.

Shiningout · 30/05/2024 19:43

Yeah I'd call him out on it. I hate people lying to me and it would make me pissed off to have someone lie as soon as a second date tbh. There was no need for him to lie, he could have just said no thanks I'm gonna go see some friends.

OMGsamesame · 30/05/2024 19:45

I'd have asked him more about the night out (for soem reason I'd be suspicious he'd actually gone on a date with someone else otherwise why would he feel the need to lie to you?)

itsmylife7 · 30/05/2024 19:47

I've no time for liars OP.

ByCupidStunt · 30/05/2024 19:51

I can't be arsed with liars either.

Being open and honest and telling the truth is REALLY important to me.

MonsteraMama · 30/05/2024 19:54

I'd have said "I thought you fell asleep?" in a light way, not confrontational or anything, just to see what he said. I don't like liars, and I'm suspicious of people who lie about small and pointless things because.. why? Why lie when it's literally just as easy not to?

Orchidacea · 30/05/2024 19:56

I wouldn't like the combination of not getting back when he said he would and lying about what he did. I wouldn't have called him on it but I'm not sure I would pursue things further.

Cbljgdpk · 30/05/2024 19:56

I wouldn’t but I wouldn’t see him again; men who lie like that will do it in relationships and you’ll regret not following that early warning sign

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 30/05/2024 20:11

@OMGsamesame I would let him expand on his fun night out and then after a detaikrd explanation....

@MonsteraMama I would say " hold on, didn't you say you fell asleep..

PurpleBugz · 30/05/2024 20:57

I wouldn't call him out on it but I'd be done dating him. You don't want to date someone who lies so comfortably it won't end well

ComfyButFrumpy · 30/05/2024 21:30

I'd bet good money that he checked the apps and he went on another date, which is why he said he'd let you know, then didn't.

You might not care about that at this stage (I would), but you should care about the slyness and easy lies.

Plus the fact that he's too thick to remember what he said 😂.

OriginalUsername2 · 30/05/2024 21:47

If all else is fine, I’d just make a mental note of it and put it aside.

Hugosmaid · 30/05/2024 21:50

He lied to your face.

GigiAnnna · 30/05/2024 21:50

ComfyButFrumpy · 30/05/2024 21:30

I'd bet good money that he checked the apps and he went on another date, which is why he said he'd let you know, then didn't.

You might not care about that at this stage (I would), but you should care about the slyness and easy lies.

Plus the fact that he's too thick to remember what he said 😂.

This. Also, in my experience, if people lie about silly little things, they also lie about other things. It's not something I'd want to base a new relationship on.

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