DC been on holiday and come home ill

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My 2 DC have been abroad for a week with their dad. One was ill while away(D&V) and still doesn’t seem right, and the other, since coming home today has an upset tummy.
I knew this would happen as they’ve always been the same when we took them abroad together in the past-something I vowed never to do again for this reason!
I have a toddler at home who I’d really like to not get sick.
ive missed DC lots and it’s lovely to see them again, but AIBU to want to send them back to their dad so he can deal with the illness(he doesn’t have any other DC)? I’m feeling a bit hard done by that he’s had a lovely week with them, and I’m left to deal with the aftermath.

Children get sick all the time. It can’t be avoided unfortunately and do you think they would have been happy missing out on the holiday because you told them they couldn’t go incase they got sick?

I wouldn't have had them home with D & V no matter how much I'd missed them. Like you say, he should be dealing with it, not you.

I am very careful and always encourage good hand hygiene(their dad doesn’t) so I do my best to limit illness. Part of my OCD. I would never have stopped them going away but have been extremely anxious all week about this very thing happening

It’s been about 3 days since the first one had it. Just enough time for the other one to catch it

My anxiety is through the roof. Fight or flight is kicking in

How old are they?

older teenagers who are smart enough to make sure they don't drink the tap water, and may well have eaten a dodgy kebab causing the illness? Absolutely say 'glad you're home, sorry you're ill, please stay at dads til you've stopped throwing up so toddler doesn't get it'

9 and 7, who are just a bit sensitive to changes in diet and temperature? No, probably want a bit of TLC from mum and should probably get it.

They could have picked up a bug anywhere - surely you’ve dealt with them before when they’re sick? What if they get sick one weekend they’re with you - would your ex expect them to stay with you until they’re better?
It’s only a stomach upset, it’s hardly like they’ve come back with Ebola. They’ll be over it in a couple of days. Making a fuss sends the kids a message that illness is something to be feared instead of just a part of life that is dealt with and then moved on from.