Sleeping arrangements at childminders

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Dinoswearunderpants · 30/05/2024 15:46

Hello

I'm trying to work out AIBU here. My DS is 3 and when he sleeps at the childminders, he sleeps in his buggy.

I've never particularly liked this arrangement but there are several kids (within the ration limits) who also sleep in their buggies so I haven't said anything.

The childminder told me the other day that my DS soiled his self whilst asleep. She explained she was in the garden with other children (who we not sleeping) and didn't get to my son in time.

She said he was calling for her when she did come in to check on them. I don't know how long they were left alone to sleep but it has to be for some time as he's usually pretty good with his toilet training.

It makes me sad thinking my poor DS was calling for help and she wasn't there. I didn't say anything as I just wasn't sure what to say but now thinking about it (she told me 2 days ago) I'm really annoyed.

We won't see her for three weeks now due to holiday but should I bring it up when we return?

It's that awkward situation as I know my son is very happy there. She does generally care for them very well but this sleeping situation just doesn't feel right.

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Thefaceofboe · 30/05/2024 19:39

Overthebow · 30/05/2024 19:35

Sleeping in a buggy unsupervised is dangerous. If he’s not strapped in he could roll out and hurt himself, if he is strapped in he could tip it up trying to get out and hurt himself or get trapped underneath. Supervised is ok, like on walks or if you’re close by. Babies definitely shouldn’t sleep in them because of the safe sleep guidelines, they should be flat on their backs, although this is a 3 year old so doesn’t apply here.

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Yeah sorry I appreciate all that I thought you were just saying it was unsafe to sleep in a buggy in general and was wondering why.

kitchenhelprequired · 30/05/2024 20:15

Children of that age and younger in a nursery would be sleeping on floor mats - could you suggest something like that?

Universalsnail · 30/05/2024 20:18

I was a childminder.

Tbh this isn't ok.
I would leave children asleep in their buggies if they fell asleep in the buggy on the way back from somewhere but would never settle them into the buggy at home. They would sleep on mats I would lay out on the floor.
Also I would never leave children sleeping indoors and be out in the garden

lochmaree · 30/05/2024 20:20

I'd be fine with buggy sleeping but not her not hearing him. I'd raise it when you get back from holiday and ask that she bring him outside to nap in the buggy if shes outside or have a baby monitor if he's inside and shes out.

our CM gets our 23mo to sleep in the buggy but she is in the room with him when he's asleep. (and she is fab ❤️)

Hankunamatata · 30/05/2024 20:20

She was honest which is a plus. I'd calmly ask if she could use a baby monitor in future if she is out in the garden and dc is sleeping

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