Are there other places equivalent to Mumsnet?

[MyOleMan]

I like having a place to think about random stuff but my mental health is fragile and I’m finding it increasingly fraught on mumsnet. Does anyone recommend any other platform?

Facebook have support groups and you can post anonymous I am in lots of different groups

The only way you'll ever achieve something like a BeKind board is if you have somewhere that's pre-moderated. And by definition, that would make it a much smaller space.

I love the idea in theory but (speaking from experience of the childless/free MNetters board) you'd only get the same people coming onto threads "because they're trending", not looking at the board title and/or not caring about the board title, and behaving exactly as they do on AIBU.

MNHQ had to add a board-marker to our board, appearing at the top of every page, reminding parents to be respectful because of the stuff that's gone on, and it's done absolutely no good. And they won't remove the board from the active threads as it's against their policy.

I think for those reasons, a board like this wouldn't work.

I don't think the guidelines themselves are different or stricter for what you might term the 'diverse boards' on Mumsnet. The interpretation of the Talk Guidelines will always depend to an extent on the subject of the board and someone repeatedly intruding on a diverse board when they don't belong to the population it was set up for, is going to be conspicuous as a 'bad faith' poster in a way they wouldn't in AIBU or Chat, so they're more likely to be spotted and deleted.

The board is reactively moderated so it's dependent on posters flagging inappropriate posts, MNHQ don't go looking for them. The 'zero tolerance' would be reliant on people reporting inappropriate posts, but then MNHQ would still have to apply the same guidelines they apply to all the other boards.

There are tens of thousands of talk boards / forums out there. I've used many over the years from travel forums like the Lonely Planet Thorntree (not the same community as it used to be!) through to depression support pages, post-abortion support and all sorts of other types. I also love Twitter.

I think if you go on the really niche threads in chat; books, film and TV etc they tend not to be as rough or worrying as AIBU.

I like Dull Women group on Facebook. 1 million members, gentle posts about ordinary lives worldwide. More for watching than getting support but I find it soothing.

I was on netmums for 2yrs, but it felt that SO many people were moving to mumsnet, and it would take ages to get replies. I eventually moved over too and have never logged back in since.

There are also more specific forum sites:
Hitched
Gardeners Corner
Ebay and Airbn have forums too and cover nearly every query/scenario someone might have

Community BabyCentre has similar groups / topics

I’m childfree and over the years have thought it might be a good idea to join childfree/less boards here and in other places. I was wrong. One way or another they’re all about children!

why not? I quite like reddit

Just stay off AIBU and you're usually alright. Any online platform will have its issues.

I find it helpful to hide the boards I find unpleasant or not of interest to me. I prefer things like Gardening, the TV ones, Property, Travel etc. They're usually much nicer places to hang out.

This. There's plenty of lovely stuff. Just avoid AIBU and other hot spots of bile.

😂😂

Reddit?

I agree MN is awful, I never see any helpful advice just people calling each other names because they don’t agree with various sentiments… or bashing anything to do with Conservatives.

And yet here you are? 🤔

I think if you've never seen any helpful advice you haven't looked at more than one or two boards.
Bashing an entire forum when you haven't looked at it properly isn't kind.

Think it really depends on the board.

And the tone does seem to be set by the first poster or two.

What's wrong with grans now???

Oh they’re so frumpy

and they stole our children’s futures

probably poor too. Can’t relate.

Thanks everyone. I think I’ll check out Reddit. I bet gransnet is great but I can’t face feeling elderly

Whose to say grans are all elderly.
I know someone whos a gran at 46.