Wedding colour

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My brother in law (husbands brother) and his future wife are requesting that the family wear a particular colour in the wedding to match the bridal party.

I find it weird to be told I have to wear a certain colour, it's green which I don't ever wear and isn't part of my usual style / palette. I'm also confused as to why I have to be told what to wear why can't I wear what I want? The more I'm being told I need to wear green, the more it's annoying me.

Does anyone else relate? I know it's their wedding but they can't dictate what colour people wear surely? Never did that in my wedding. Just wanted people to be comfortable

Some wedding dress code are relatively normal, fit example if it's a black tie event, but that's where it should stop.
I also grew up with the green is unlucky thing so ïd find it strange personally.
I don't like green, the only time I ever wear anything green is when I have a really dark tan, and then it's so bright, it's practically florescent, nothing else suits me. I'm pretty certain any wedding couple with such a regimented idea of what their photos style look like would be mortified if I wore neon like green!!
I find it odd personally, but if it's really a huge thing can you get a dress with some green in it, just a touch in the pattern on maybe a light background? What would you normally wear?

I wouldn’t. People who humour this sort of behaviour enable it.

Look round the charity shops for a green blouse and wear with trousers, if you don't want to waste too much money

That guest was the most reasonable person at the wedding!

When did bridezilla reach such levels as to choose colours for guests to wear?

Beyond ridiculous.....

But oh oh it looks the part for the gram!

A lot of people try not to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids so this is a nice idea

Ask if it's ok to not spend out on a new dress?!?

Nah ...

The voice of reason and rationality!

Enjoy your day, as all your guests will!

What's nice about it?

Is it cultural? I have in-laws and the culture is to pick a colour and all the guests wear it. To be fair the photos look stunning. There has to be one shade wearable. Can you rent a dress?

They'll all look like bridesmaids

A few years ago one of my team members got married and even stipulated the Pantone colour reference number of the beige everyone had to wear in her invitation . 😂

I know it was an Italian wedding in High summer and super hot but beige is an exceptionally difficult colour for womens formal wear!

I had a friend ask for her guests wo wear certain colours so I did. It made her happy.

It fed her entitlement!

I'm would t be friends with someone so shallow, much more self respect than that.

What do you think made her happy about looking at you wearing a dictated colour?

Beige is an awful colour. It is so colourless and boring the photos would look boring as well.

If I had to splash out on a new outfit for a wedding I wouldn't buy a colour I hate. I would also be happy not to be in the photos.

Weddings are about two people making a lifelong commitment to each other. Photos are secondary.

“Lovely idea, however I’m so excited I’ve already bought my outfit and it’s in a different colour”

I think it’s dickish behaviour.
What have the men to wear?
Green suits?
I agree with others buy a cheap green scarf and wear that.
Unless you can find a cheap green blouse or something.

Thank you all for the responses. Glad I'm not going crazy here!

Perhaps you could wear an outfit that you would like to wear, and get one of those luminous green training bibs to put on over the top for her photo palette ?

Or you and dh turn up in Irish rugby tops or football shirts and say that was the only green you have ?

I'd just go along with it to keep the peace, there are lots of options as in shades, prints including green amongst other colours, and just wearing green accessories with a neutral colour outfit. The only wedding I've been to where dress was stipulated was a certain historical period, but no-one took it seriously apart from a select few - most just had an accessory if that.

This is why people do this nonsense, because people go along with it to keep the peace.

They’re clearly trying to have a theme at their wedding, and you’re part of the close family! So it’s being inclusive.
it’s one day.. their day… I would just do it.

Can't say making people feel uncomfortable in a colour they don't like wearing, or making people have to go out and buy something new when they already have clothes in their wardrobe, is 'being inclusive'. It's more like asking people to be props in a photoshoot.
Rather than the normal way of asking the photographer to record what happens on the day. So in a normal wedding, many people enjoy sorting out their outfit and turning up to celebrate the wedding of two people they love, rather than being asked to fit in to some kind of set up photoshoot.

There would be not a single hope of me doing that. If you're not in the wedding party you wear whatever you want.

I'm a grown arse woman and have been capable of choosing my own outfits for several decades now.

Weddings used to be fun. Now they're just bullshit and most of the people having them aren't even religious.

@Alwaysalwayscold eh marriage is a legal contract - the religion is pic n mix on top.