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Having a second baby

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Happysallie · 29/05/2024 21:52

I would like another baby. I think it would be good to have a sibling for my current child etc. The baby would be much loved etc etc

But oh my god I cannot be bothered with being pregnant again. It feels like signing up for an endurance event.

I went to 42+5 last time. Almost ten months.

And there won’t even be a novelty factor this time round.

YABNU - pregnancy is boring

YABU - it’s not that bad

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TickyBooo · 29/05/2024 22:46

Currently 36 weeks with my second. In a way it's helped to know what was coming and that it's temporary. I feel good knowing I'm almost near the finish line now.

MammaTill2Pojkar · 29/05/2024 23:17

tillytomtiny · 29/05/2024 22:37

YANBU - hated my second pregnancy, it was much harder than my first pregnancy but that is unsurprising given the fact I was chasing a toddler around and had gestational diabetes (worse the second time round, manageable the first pregnancy)

HOWEVER I wouldn't change a thing now

The small silver lining is that you'll most likely be earlier with a second/third/fourth baby in the future... Statistically they tend to come faster than you first as your body knows what it's doing. Apparently! Although, I do speak from experience as DC2 arrived at 38+2 after a sweep whereas DC1 was 40+5.

My DC 2 came later and had to be evicted, DC1 came by himself 😂Labour was a couple hours shorter though.

DramaAlpaca · 29/05/2024 23:31

I hated being pregnant. I've no idea how I managed to do it three times. I know I got through the last one telling myself every day that I'd never have to do this again. It was totally worth it though.

Ella31 · 30/05/2024 10:20

I didn't get to bring home my babies - lost my twin sons at birth in November but agreed pregnancy is so hard. I vomited up to 20 weeks and got pelvic girdle pain till the end. So sore. Will go again obviously as we want to be parents again and actually bring a baby home but the fear is real.

motleymop · 30/05/2024 20:27

Ella31 · 30/05/2024 10:20

I didn't get to bring home my babies - lost my twin sons at birth in November but agreed pregnancy is so hard. I vomited up to 20 weeks and got pelvic girdle pain till the end. So sore. Will go again obviously as we want to be parents again and actually bring a baby home but the fear is real.

I'm so very sorry. Words do nothing to convey....
Wishing you and your partner all the best x

Yahyahs22 · 30/05/2024 20:37

I'm about to give birth to my third (literally, I'm in early labour), and I can't and won't ever do this again. However, I'm so excited to give my kids another sibling. There's honestly nothing like it. Being pregnant is rubbish but it's absolutely worth watching them grow together.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 30/05/2024 20:42

I loathed being pregnant. It felt like most fun things were taken away. It did go a lot faster for me the second time round though, I guess busy with a toddler and also I think because my belly popped out more I had less pressure on my hips and found I wasn't in as much pain so i could do more, and I'd already returned to work and knew that having time off wasn't going to end my career etc so there was less stress about that.

Aramiss · 30/05/2024 20:48

Nope. I hated being pregnant.

I've done it once, never again.

I just hope my daughter won't resent me for being an only child.

WhyamInotvomiting · 30/05/2024 21:27

MammaTill2Pojkar · 29/05/2024 23:17

My DC 2 came later and had to be evicted, DC1 came by himself 😂Labour was a couple hours shorter though.

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Same here, well I wasn't induced but DC2 was born 41+4 and my induction was booked for 41+5. DC1 was born on their due date so I was expecting to be earlier second time around and started mat leave earlier so had loads of time off before they finally arrived!

MammaTill2Pojkar · 30/05/2024 23:28

WhyamInotvomiting · 30/05/2024 21:27

Same here, well I wasn't induced but DC2 was born 41+4 and my induction was booked for 41+5. DC1 was born on their due date so I was expecting to be earlier second time around and started mat leave earlier so had loads of time off before they finally arrived!

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My first was 41+2, my second we started induction at 41+4 and even then he didn't want out and didn't come until 41+5 XD

LondonFox · 30/05/2024 23:44

Tbh I found first pregnancy the hardest as everything was unknown and everyone wanted to share their fucking oppinion.
After that I was relaxed knowing I know what I am doing and trusting my intuition.
Also, I spent some time in Europe so picked up different approach to pregnancy (more relaxed in some aspects, more rigid in others)

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