To not even want to receive a diagnosis?

[PopGoesTheSqueak]

My mental health has been so up and down for around 8 years now. I’ve been told I have anxiety and depression for many years and no remedies have worked.

Over the years I have realised more and more ADHD type symptoms. Inability to concentrate, always fidgeting, poor organisation, extreme sensitivity to rejection, etc etc.

I’m 27 now and after a meltdown a few weeks ago, I am now on the pathway for an adhd assessment. My mental health advisor said he’s convinced I have it. Said I am the classic high functioning women with adhd profile.

But I’ve not told anyone, apart from my partner, and I don’t plan to either. So many people now say “everyone has an adhd diagnosis” “everyone has a mental health issue now” “it’s not even real anymore”

I’m so nervous that’s what people will say to me and that I’m jumping on the bandwagon just because I’m a bit fidgety or something. I’m not even going to tell my parents because they don’t believe in it and “everyone is a bit adhd”.

I’m terrified ☹️ and I don’t know how to deal with it

I don't know of this helps, but remember the only one in control of sharing any diagnosis you do get is you - if you don't want to share it, you don't have to. You can also decide to share it only with people you feel will be more supportive or constructive. I have autism (late diagnosis) and I have found it has helped to understand myself more, and know which direction to look in for tips and tricks to help me manage some of the things I find difficult. A diagnosis doesn't change anything other than giving you more information.

My son was very unhappy about his aspergers diagnosis, but as it was diagnosed quite late, it didn't change anything as we had already figured out how to live with it.
You don't actually have to tell anyone if you choose not to.