Would this bother you?

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Just got back off holiday. We had a lovely break. We took 3 kids so obviously there was squabbles. It was cloudy in the morning and dh wasn't a fan of all inclusive. But we had a couple of lovely days out. The kids loved the beach and slides. Food was good and we ate out a couple times too.

Mil rang, asked dh about the hol. He sat and moaned for ten minutes- the weather, the pool , the food, children squabbling. He said none of the positive.

For some reason it upset me he didn't say anything untrue but he missed out the nice bits. Would this bother you?

I'd let it go - but possibly say that as he didn't enjoy the last holiday, you and DCs were going alone or with a friend of yours (if you want to that is) next time.
It might be enough to stop him being a miserable arse about normal family life, on holiday or not.

Is there a backstory to this - e.g. MIL can't holiday for whatever reason, so your DH doesn't want to brag too much about the time he's had? Or she is hyper-critical so he gets his moans in first?

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No back story mil holidays several times a year. I don't know if it's to get sympathy maybe? He can be a bit of a martyr at times

Is he often negative in this way?

Hmm yes he does lean more towards a negative outlook than a positive outlook. He tends to think worst case scenario than best.

This would make me feel rubbish! Is he usually a moaner?

Cross post. At least it's in character I guess (rather than related to this specific holiday). I'd find it hard to live with this though! I can't stand people who moan all the time.

How draining for you.

That would bug me. It's fine to be honest but I hate it when people over react and only focus on the negative.

Holidays with kids...I find them really hard, exhausting and a bit claustrophobic. Doesn't mean I should be left behind though!

He's allowed to blow off steam, what's it got to do with you really what he says to his mum? If it was the other way round would you be ok with him policing what you say to your mum?

Fair point. I feel she judges me so that may be clouding my view