To keep quiet about the award?

[Kenny876]

I recently won an award in my department for excellent performance and so on. I have no idea if anybody else won one, my manager just messaged privately. It was a monetary award, and I haven't told anybody else.

I've told one friend who's in a different department and that's it. It's not like I would go around bragging or something, and I think most would genuinely be happy however I think some people would rightly question, why didn't I get one?

Maybe some others got one, but so far nobody's said anything. I don't see a situation in which it could be revealed unless my manager brought it up in front of others.
I feel I earned it and deserve the award, but AIBU to keep quiet?

I just think there are a small number of people who'd react badly and feel resentful. They may (rightly) feel they deserve one too. It's just one of those things.

If you won, then surely you as the winner would be the only one

Also if you win something, surely others were nominated or aware that this is happening?

I had no idea, i just got an email saying I'd been nominated for it. Maybe won was the wrong choice of word as nothing was announced.

I'm not sure I'd care enough to keep it quiet really.

If others wonder why they didn't get an award, it's nothing to do with me.

DH has quite a few and he always keeps quite. I've never gone round telling people when I get performance bonuses either. It's just not our style though. I guess it's whatever you want to do really

It just reminds me of when I did my PGCE, I had the highest grades in the class once and a 'friend' who always tried to find the bad in everything made a comment about how things would be harder for me as I'd now have to work twice as hard. It just put a downer on things.

It's not that I'd go out of my way to go round telling people, but I feel like sometimes when you win something or whatever it's nice to share your good news/nice to be recognised. It's a shame to feel you have to keep things hidden but I do.

We get these, tbh everyone just keeps quiet as there would always be one who moans they never get one!

I'd keep quiet and just be happy inside.

In a lot of places, this is something managers are encouraged to do. If someone goes above and beyond, they can be rewarded with a small token such as a £20 Amazon voucher. Where I worked you did not usually discuss it with colleagues as it could cause resentment.

I'd stay quiet at work and tell your family your good news instead.

That doesn't make any sense at all!

I would keep quiet really if you think it's going to create a problem. It wasn't announced and it will be on your record so there's no reason for others to know anything about it. Congratulations though!

People are either drains or radiators. The radiators give warmth, and the drains……take the dirty water away? Or something like that. 🤨

I wouldn’t give the type of mean-spirited insecurity a second’s thought. Tell or don’t tell just as you see fit. If someone’s response to you winning something is to whine that they should have won it, I’d suggest they work harder next time. Enjoy your own bonus, OP. You don’t need anyone else’s approval.

I don’t think this type of ‘performance reward’ is something that you would need to tell anybody else about in the same way as you don’t discuss your salary with workmates .