Children hitting others

[Antihistamine62]

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if your child gets hit do you tell them to hit back? If not what do you tell them to do?

curious as a differing opinion in our house

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YABU

Well, I always laid the consequences out for DD to make her own informed decision of what could happen if she hit someone back - as far as I know she's never hit anyone.

Once she turned 10 I made sure she understood that she was now old enough for the police to be involved if she ever did anything like that, vandalism in the community etc. - Which she never has but alot of children don't realise that and I think it's important.

Not entirely sure what you mean here? I’ve not replied on any threads today 🙃

The official advice I was given even twenty years ago never tell your child to hit back , they get caught and punished . Tell them to always tell on the instigator .

Given that I hope things have moved on from when I was a child and it was the teachers saying to hit back and not to tell tales, I always told DS to tell the teacher and not to hit back. And very specifically, to tell the teacher if he saw anyone being mean to anyone else and not to jump to their defence by kicking the bully, as he always wanted to defend his friends.