To think this is a perfectly balanced workout routine and be worried DSD is falling into ED territory again

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DSD is 23. She had an ED as a teen so we are very keen to prevent relapse.
Tonight we were chatting about her workout routine and she was expressing she worries it isn't enough and she needs to do more.
Right now, Monday and Friday she plays tennis before work with a friend. Goes to a reformer Pilates class on Tuesday and Thursday before work and a Yoga Class before work on Wednesday.
On the weekend she tries to either go a run/tennis/swimming etc.
3 days a week she also walks the 25 min to and from work.
Tonight she was expressing she is worried it's not rounded enough and that she needs to do more, especially worrying that she doesn't do any strength training/weights.

AIBU to think this is perfectly balance and be concerned that her inability to see that could be a sign of relapse?

I'd suggest that she chats with her therapist, doctor, advisor about it.

That's about what I was doing before this pregnancy floored me to the sofa, and it's pretty standard for an active adult. She is indeed missing weight training from that schedule, she should probably replace one of the yoga or pilates with weights.

I appreciate you worrying about her ED but I wouldn't class what she's doing particularly hard or too much...

I agree with @DontKnow1988: this all looks reasonable but probably needs a couple of weights sessions to round it out. Dropping Pilates would make sense and tennis with a friend is also a social thing.

Also I wouldn't call a 25 minute walk to work exercise, unless she's covering 10 miles in that time and does it rain or shine.

But reformer pilates is strength training? Just using your body weight and the resistance of the machine instead of free weights.

pilates is a form of weight training.

tbh it sounds ok me as long it is balanced with her health. if she is alert, sleeps enough, eats well..
for many this would be too much already.

I agree in that someone who hasn’t had an eating disorder that this isn’t too much but we don’t know her, what motivates her, what help she had at the time, what stress she is currently under and any coping mechanisms.

Does she know that you are concerned? Does she live at home?
Would she swap one activity for weights eg only one tennis a week and replace it with weights?

Exercising every day is a lot. I agree it could border into obsessive.
How does she feel if she has to miss a class/ session? For illness or other reasons.

I do far more excercise than this and I'm overweight so it doesn't seem excessive at all to me. I would also agree that she would be better adding some more resistance training.

What's her attitude to to it? Does she panic if she has to miss a session? Is she eating sufficiently to fuel her workouts?

I think her reaction will tell you more than how much activity she is doing. How are these thoughts that she's not doing enough effecting her ? Is she stressed , anxious at the thought? Same if she misses a day or so of her routine ? Does it effect her ? Does she feel guilty, does it send her off into a spiral?

Here is the NHS guidelines.
They place Pilates in strength so I’d say yes that a well rounded workout routine. This thread will attract the very fit so the answer won’t be representative.
The only question is with tennis, how good are they? Are they standing in the same place and rallying back and forth or are they good enough to be sending their opponent from corner to corner, and from behind the baseline all the way into the net?
It’s more exercise than the majority of people will do, but nothing extreme. If I were her I’d probably add a PT session on the same day as Yoga and I’d add something structured to the weekend so I’m less likely to skip out. A lot of young people at my work love the themed spin classes done to Taylor Swift music so it can be fun!
The most telling thing is how does she react if she has to miss out? Guilt/desperation to make it up? I’d say that’s more concerning than the actual quantity of activities.

I’ve had an ED in the past and do a lot of sport now - and have done since I recovered.

The key thing to me is less “is this workout routine normal?” and more her emotional state around it. Does she feel adequately recovered, and is her body indicating that she is recovering between sessions? Does she have goals related to her sport? Are they realistic? Is she making progress towards achieving them? (I do a competitive sport at the moment so have goals around that.) Is her nutrition adequate and if she gets hungry after a workout does she respond to that?

If something comes up that interrupts her training does she let it slide or does she experience that ED voice and horrendous guilt and feel as if she has to make the amount of working out up later on or the next day?

Try to explore these concepts in a non-judgemental way and see if she can see for herself what is healthy and what is ED talking. That she is talking with you rather than getting on with changing her routine could indicate that she wants someone to validate not increasing her training, as her ED is telling her to train more but she recognises that this might not be a healthy thought pattern right now and needs a supportive person to validate this.