Miffed About Days Off

[ByUmberCrow]

BF and I arranged to book today and tomorrow off to spend together. Nothing specific booked, but had talked about some activities we would each like to do (depending on weather, etc)
Today we were going to do a couple of DIY bits and take a walk somewhere we’ve been wanting to go for ages, but after the DIY stuff this morning, BF decided he wanted a quiet afternoon - which was fine, we’ve pottered and watched a film, etc - fine.
I’ve just asked him what he would like to do tomorrow and has told me that his DD wants to clothes shopping.
DD was originally working tomorrow but has changed shifts, apparently.
AIBU to feel a bit miffed that BF backed out of this afternoon’s plans, and has now made other plans for our supposed day off together tomorrow?

Can’t you go along as well? All have some lunch together and then a mooch around the shops? I think if you didn’t have firm plans for the second day then maybe he assumed that as nothing was set in stone it would be fine.

Not really enough information to say more - are you close to his DD as well, do you spend time with her, how much time does he usually spend with her, etc?

Days off do tend to include some focus on kids, however old they are. You can't set yourself up in competition with his DD unfortunately; if he's decent then he'll kick you to the kerb immediately for that, and if not then he's not worth having.

Next time, work out a full plan for the week that doesn't exclude the DD, and book some activities so that they are locked in if you want to rely on them.