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Was this snobbery? Online dating

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TheQuickGoldSheep · 27/05/2024 21:58

I'm single and using the Hinge app. I'm in Liverpool and was talking to a man who worked as a teacher.
He told me he'd previously worked in two schools in 'very rough' areas of the city.
I asked which areas they were and he told me them, one of them has a poor reputation as it's deprived, the other not as much so, it's just an average area where a friend of mine lives.

I joked that I lived 2 minutes' walk from the first area in another inner-city area. People occasionally refer to my area as 'rough', but it's absolutely fine, it's largely a student population as it's very close to the unis, I've had zero issues.

He completely ignored my 'joke' and then proceeded to tell me where he lived, saying 'fortunately, it's not too bad here'.

If anyone's in Liverpool, he was referring to Kenny and Garston, I live in Edge Hill and he lives in Old Swan.

He randomly ghosted me anyway so 😅 I've been through Old Swan and it was just like anywhere else tbh.

It's true some areas are more deprived or run-down, Kenny doesn't have a great rep, but I guess the whole, X and X are rough but my area is good, sounded a little snobby.
Maybe he's put off by where I live?

OP posts:
GotMarriedInCornwall · 31/05/2024 08:12

Where we live is rough.
We’ve never personally had any issues here and feel perfectly safe, but I’m under no illusions that we live in the arsehole of our town.
I can’t imagine being offended if someone pointed it out.

ViciousCurrentBun · 31/05/2024 08:18

I moved from a rural idyll to inner city Birmingham when I went to University, I lived in one of the top 10 worst postcodes in the country at the time, you bet it was rough.

NoThanksymm · 31/05/2024 13:43

He responded to where you live with where he lives. You weren’t ignored at all.

maria57 · 31/05/2024 18:45

Take no notice to him and leave him to it.
You havent lost much...if that could be his reason.
There is plenty more nice Scousers around who are proud of the city no matter where you live in it xxx

Kjpt140v · 31/05/2024 22:11

Every scouser thinks they are a comedian. I don't have clue what you are going on about.

Ilovecleaning · 01/06/2024 01:51

I get the joke. It was a small one. I don’t understand how some people don’t get it.

Tinythumbelina · 01/06/2024 03:09

If we were talking Cressington Park I might understand.....

Changedforthetoday · 01/06/2024 05:46

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 28/05/2024 07:25

I personally think old swan is a bit rough and garston isn’t actually too bad- edge hill neither 😅

Me too! My Nan lived in Old Swan - I def think you live in a better area.

namechangefandango · 01/06/2024 05:51

Of course he was snobby. He’s a teacher. I’ve never met a more judgmental up themselves opinionated rude and patronising group of people in my life.
I have worked alongside them in education for decades. There are some rare gems but for the most:
those who think they’re better and know more than everyone else, teach.

ilovesooty · 01/06/2024 10:46

namechangefandango · 01/06/2024 05:51

Of course he was snobby. He’s a teacher. I’ve never met a more judgmental up themselves opinionated rude and patronising group of people in my life.
I have worked alongside them in education for decades. There are some rare gems but for the most:
those who think they’re better and know more than everyone else, teach.

Just because the teachers you've met have been like that it doesn't mean most of them are.

paddyclampofthethirdkind · 01/06/2024 20:42

The teacher bashing on here is far more shocking that this teacher bloke’s comments!

Newsenmum · 01/06/2024 20:43

KreedKafer · 28/05/2024 08:48

He sounds a bit patronising.

This

Newsenmum · 01/06/2024 20:45

namechangefandango · 01/06/2024 05:51

Of course he was snobby. He’s a teacher. I’ve never met a more judgmental up themselves opinionated rude and patronising group of people in my life.
I have worked alongside them in education for decades. There are some rare gems but for the most:
those who think they’re better and know more than everyone else, teach.

WTH?? All the ones I know are lovely and deliberately do something less well paid because they’re passionate and love kids! 😅

OneFrenchEgg · 01/06/2024 20:55

I got your joke it was fine. Maybe he is just a bit self absorbed and it that interested in anyone else. DW about it, onto the next.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 01/06/2024 21:00

I give teachers a really wide birth

Sounds painful.

DeadMabelle · 02/06/2024 00:02

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 01/06/2024 21:00

I give teachers a really wide birth

Sounds painful.

And likely to involve Very Large Stirrups.

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