He didn't tell me I work with his ex- strange?

[TheQuickGoldSheep]

I know ultimately it's none of my business, I just found it a little odd he kept quiet.

A man I'm friends with at work, I found out his ex was my former line manager. I still work in her department but I'm no longer her direct report as they did a bit of rejigging of the teams.

Apparently they dated around 7 years ago in their place of employment and she ended things, he's been single since. Apparently it's 'put him off' dating at work.

I only know because he walked past our desk and she said 'Guess what, I dated him in 2017'.
I didn't even know they knew each other.
I talk to him regularly and he'll have seen me sitting and talking with her in the office.

They both worked at a restaurant chain apparently and dated then. He's told me all about her without telling me it's her

Apparently he acts like he doesn't know her. He's been here 2 years and it's highly likely he's seen her, as I say I've sat next to her several times and he'll have seen this.

As I say it isn't my business, he doesn't have to tell me, I just find it a bit odd. I've no intention of saying anything to him unless he brings it up.

She did mention one day that she's from the same area as him and I was going to ask him if he knew her, but never did.

I genuinely thought you were talking about a partner not a guy you work with. I don't think it's at all strange for him to not want anyone to know his past.

I mean I considered him a good friend, we talk a lot and he's told me a lot of stuff about his life. He has told me about their relationship and when they dated etc. He just failed to mention she was my manager.
However you are right he's not required to, I guess I'm just a little weirded out.

Yeah I thought this would be about someone you were dating. I don’t think this is weird

I think it's weird. So he's yadda yadda, my ex this and that but not oh, by the way, she's your manager, the woman I saw you talking to half an hour ago? Yes that's weird. If he hadn't said anything at all OK, but to tell you all that and just leave out the fact that she's your manager is strange.

Yeah, that's it. I mean he mentioned it once, it was basically like oh I met my last ex at work, when she ended it it was awkward and I ended up leaving.

Do you fancy him? It seems a bit weird that you'd be so interested/invested if you weren't interested in him yourself.

If he pretends he doesn't know her then he's obviously private about his business and doesn't want to be the subject of gossip. It's a bit weird that she's still mentioning "I dated him 2017".