53 and feeling off

[Sunshineandpinkclouds]

Not sure why I feel this but in the last couple of months I'm not quite feeling myself and not sure what to do about it.

• feeling like I want an adventure
• feeling like I want all the Botox / fillers
• feeing attracted to NDN's son (20 something) and enjoying chats when I bump into him.

Aargh what's wrong with me! I'm not on HRT - would that help? Or do I need to take myself on a solo adventure ( I have kids and a husband)

Just feel out of sorts!!!!

sunshineandpinkclouds

I feel the same, 51 😎

Yep. I'm 46.

Oh so not just me then. 🤣. What to do about it?

Shirley valentine immediately springs to mind. The F plan

sunshineandpinkclouds

Not sure I have the answer!

Mojo has been lost over twenty years of parenting, peri-menopause and shocked by what I see in the mirror. Desperate for change 🙄

You’re having a midlife crisis. Go on the adventure and find yourself a young man when you get where you’re going!

So get the Botox
Book a holiday
Take up a new hobby

Make a change to your life and see if that helps?

In addition to changing hormones I now find that my kids are now more independent so I have more time on my hands and that easy part time job which fitted around childcare responsibilities has become a bit boring - although I'm not ready to give up on the easy work / life balance yet.

Bored and stuck 🤣

@StormingNorman No I don't want a young man and I wouldn't cheat on my husband

@Loafbeginsat60 Agreed - having put it out there I now know it's not Botox that would fix my internal angst but yes a holiday somewhere different just me could be the answer.

56 here, I’m on HRT and most of the time all I want is a nice cup of tea and a sit down 🤣
I wouldnt mind feeling a bit frisky, I’m not quite ready to accept that that ship has sailed for good!

Lol NDN sounds fun

Why not give yourself a 'make over' if of course you can afford it? Go to the shops and try on some styles that you normally wouldn't dream of wearing, or take a friend, and ask them to pick out a load of clothes that they think would look nice on you. Have a try on session, see if you like something different, and if you do, treat yourself. Have you changed your hair style recently? If not, try and find a new hairdresser, that you've heard good things about, and ask them to give you something completely different. You may or may not like it, but it's only hair, it'll grow back if you don't. How about trying something adventurous like cold water swimming, or coasteering? Have a weekend away (again, if you can afford it) and go somewhere you've never been before? There are so many things that are open to you OP, even if you don't have much money to throw at it. Have you tried talking to your DH about how you're feeling? If not, then perhaps see if he has any thoughts on how you can change things up a bit.

Holiday, if you can afford it. I went to Rome on my own, I’m divorced and if my friends/sister aren’t able to come I’ve got nobody to go with. It was the first time I’d been away alone and a couple of people I know raised their eyebrows at the idea and muttered about it not being ‘safe’ and was I SURE I was doing the right thing, but I’m glad I didn’t let them put me off. I had a lovely time, I could do exactly what I wanted when I wanted, it felt very liberating and did my confidence the world of good.

@coxesorangepippin - I am prone to developing crushes so I am nipping any thoughts in my head right now. It's embarrassing I couldn't even tell anyone in real life!

@TheRomanticOutlaw Yes that's what I need - I did have a weekend away on my own for a for a fitness event and felt reinvigorated!

Time to plan another one ☺️

New hobby? Exciting holiday? New clothes/hair/whatever isn’t Botox?

Focus on your career, volunteer with all the free hours. Mentoring ?
Xchoolx are desperate for parent helpers. If your boredshitless now imagine 10 years time!
I'm 53 just starting new job FT, and setting up own business.

Cosmetic surgery won't fulfill your lack of mental fulfillment....

@Sunshineandpinkclouds I am 10 years younger BUT had the feelings of boredom and sort like I needed a challenge.

Get a hobby you become obsessed about! Mine was hiking/wild camping and I’ve gone on some solo hiking trips. Bought all the gear (I am fit and love the outdoors so this was fun for me)
and am hiking and camping the Pennine Way soon! All alone. It’s a huge thing for me. And I know it won’t be easy.

I just needed something exciting 😄(that was realistic, budget and life wise)

53 here. I work with a gorgeous 20 something who I get along so well with. In another life, I am sure we would have been romantically involved. Instead I am his work mum. Never mind!

Get some piercings and tattoos, works for me anyway.

I can relate. The Maldives keep springing up on my Facebook. I want to go so badly that it hurts. On my own.
Oh, and Botox is fab.

@JennyfromtheBlok Sounds great! I like hiking - any overnight walks you would recommend (would prefer a b&b stop rather than camping)

Although I genuinely already live an exciting life every day, I have been obsessing now for a while about solo hiking trips and a small campervan. I also really like the look of those adverts for long trips in the Lonely Planet magazine.