Hi all,
I spoke with my mum this weekend and she told me that she has appointed my two older sisters as POA in regards to her will and estate. One is the main POA and the other will act up in case the first one is unable to undertake the role. I am the third sibling/daughter. The initial discussion led by mum was that the main POA (sister no.2) would do this role as my older sister and I have a volatile relationship. I don't particularly have a brilliant relationship with either sister, and my concern is that they will outnumber me in anything relating to mum and her estate (mum has verbally mentioned that a third of the estate will be going equally to the three of us). I also wouldn't know what they are doing with her account or what transactions would be occurring. Mum's reasoning that I wasn't included as a third name was that I had to much on my plate. I do think that odd though as everyone has a lot on their plate. I am actually hurt by what this represents in the family dynamics as I would like to actually have a say in my mother's welfare. My husband has been supportive but I feel very hurt by the decision. I should add that my relationship with my mum is neither bad or worse than the ones my sisters have with her. Any advice?