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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

It’s a MIL one

30 replies

juraandme · 25/05/2024 18:53

Way back in January i asked my inlaws if they could have the DC for two nights this weekend as its my husbands birthday. Our DC are 4 and 1. All was agreed and although i hadn't made physical bookings, we had plans to go hillwalking and go for dinner afterwards and then have a lie in for the first time in a long time the morning after. They were happy with this and added it to their diary.

Around 4 weeks ago a football game was scheduled for today and MIL made a comment to DH about them trying to get tickets. I text and said was this happening as obviously they already had agreed to take the kids so I needed to know if I had to make other arrangements and the reply was yes, FIL wants to go to the football so we are going to try and get tickets. DH very disappointed that they were choosing football over the Gkids at his birthday and i was honestly raging but just simply said fine i will try arrange something else for DH birthday.

Basically couldn't arrange other childcare so our plans were changed to staying at home. Not the end of the world but we were really looking forward to spending a bit of time together.

Well, today they are on the phone and DH asks what time are you guys going to the game and the reply is that they didn’t manage to get any tickets!!!

AIBU to be annoyed here? Cancelled their original plans with grandkids for a football game and then didn’t even get tickets for said game but still didn’t go back to original agreement?

YABU - they were right to do this.
YANBU - that was pretty shitty of them.

OP posts:
GeckoFeet · 25/05/2024 19:57

I think 4 and 1 are very difficult ages to have overnight. It's a shame that they weren't honest about not wanting to babysit, it really seems like they had no intention of doing it and used the football as a excuse.

fancyfrogs · 25/05/2024 20:07

I agree that it's shitty behaviour and my in laws have acted similarly in the past too. We never ask them anything childcare related now Sad

ArmchairPhycologist · 25/05/2024 20:18

juraandme · 25/05/2024 19:20

He actually said, so you could have had the kids then? And there was a lot of spluttering and no words actually came out that meant anything and then she said, you didn’t get anything booked though, as if it was our fault. DH then said he had to go and came off the phone in a terrible mood

Oh gosh. I'd be fuming too. It's not even like they're saying "but we want to see you on your birthday too" is it?
I'd find it hard to get past this I think. Sorry they've been shit Flowers

Beautifulbythebay · 25/05/2024 20:23

Imo they enjoyed pulling out. Take that power away and find a reputable babysitter.. Then never ever ask them again. Ils never had my dc after smugly telling me my vegi dc would be eating meat at their house.. Apparently what the eyes don't see the heart doesn't grieve over were mil's words....
A cuppa and a biscuit was the length of our visits.

GOTBrienne · 25/05/2024 20:30

They look after other GC? They’re not being nice. If they found it too much they could just have asked to do the evening instead.
id find an alternative and never ask again.

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