Holiday Abroad for Daughters

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Would you be happy to let your 19 year old and 16 year old daughters go on holiday abroad together ? Would be to somewhere we went last year so would know the area and what to expect ! Parents unable to go due to ill health ! Am I being unreasonable to not let them go ?

I would not be entirely happy with this arrangement. The 19 year old is too young to be responsible for her 16 year old sister. Is there a relative that could go as well.

What's your reason? The 19yr old is an adult and can do what she wants anyway, so presumably it's the 16yr old?

Absolutely yes. My DDs did sth similar and had a great time. No issues at all. Do you generally trust them? I didn’t have any grounds for concern, but if you have had any problems in the past, I can see why you might need to be more circumspect.

Yes i would but my younger dd is the super sensible mature one, travelled solo a couple of times at 16 for different reasons, checking into hotels etc (it's complicated)

It's a case of know the individuals, there are siblings living alone by that point and cope amazingly well and others you barely trust not to fight whilst you go to the supermarket

I left home when I was 16, and booked my own holidays. I don’t think anyone can really answer this because it’s so dependent on their personalities - you could be ridiculously over protective, or sensible, depending on that.

My 15yo mentioned going to a concert with her 18yo cousin. So similar, and just one evening. But the 18yo is daft as a brush, totally irresponsible and impulsive, and also given to crying fits and / or panic attacks over minor inconveniences. That sounds dismissive of her panic attacks, I’m really not. It’s heartbreaking to watch and I’ve offered to pay for therapy for her. So we went to a concert as a group (other cousins too). The 18yo went to the loo, couldn’t immediately find the others. Burst into tears - she had her phone on her, she was flapping too much to even think of calling them. Afterwards, my 15yo dropped the idea of the pair of them going together, because she knew she couldn’t support the 18yo’s needs.

So… completely dependent on the people in question!

It depends on the maturity of the younger one. The elder one is an adult.

I took my 15 yo sibling to a trip to Greece, Asia & the Middle East, I was early 20’s, and all went well. But I am used to traveling and I am a responsible adult if you feel your daughters are responsible I would let them, personally.

I would be very happy to let my 19&16 year old go away together but I can't answer for yours

Is your 19 year old well travelled? Would she be confident in solving issues that may arise (for example illness requiring medical attention? Loss of passports? Robbery?) alongside being the sole carer of a teenager?

I was going abroad at 19 solo, but would not of been competent to look after a 16 year old safely.

I went skiing at 19 with my 17 yo brother. He was more sensible than me!

Yes, I'd let my 19(!), and 16yo go.

I took my 15yo brother to the Canaries when I was 19, with some friends from uni. We had a great time and he was unscathed and not given too much alcohol 😂

Depends. A hard partying irresponsible 19 year old taking a 16 year old to Sunny Beach would be a different thing entirely to a teetotal history lover taking her to Costa del peaceful to look at the 15th century architecture. Where your situation lies on this spectrum would dictate your decision.

I was married with DC1 at 19!

You can't stop the 19 year old. She's an adult.

The 16 year old is shaky as to whether you could really stop her.

But if you trust your 19 year old then go for it. They've been before.

There are 19 year olds who are parents who will navigating taking younger children away. Heck there are 16 year olds who are parents! Meanwhile I'm over 30, never been abroad and would feel completely out of my depth going...

Make sure they have a list of emergency contacts and their sim cards will work abroad.

Yes 19 year old very sensible and they get on well together ! It would be a small Greek seaside village so no nightlife etc to deal with ! I suppose the problem would be if something went wrong ? I guess I will have to decide what I am comfortable with ?

I went away at 19 with my 16 year old sister. We did an rail trip across the US.

In a small Green village, what sort of things would go so seriously wrong that the presence of a parent would make such a difference?
If they get ill or injured, they presumably will take themselves to a doctor, exactly as you would take them to a doctor. The hotel will be able to advise them on where to go to find medical care.
If the plane is delayed, the airline staff will provide information about what to do next etc.
Assuming they have no additional needs , I fail to see what the big deal is.
They could both have kids and be working full time at their ages....

Yes no issue at all. But I don't think my DDs would've Wanted to go away together at that age. Besides DD1 had her own daughter by then

A 19 years-old person can be a parent, ffs! Why on earth can't she look after a 16 y-o???

Don't be that type of parent....

Went interailing for a month round Europe
Pre Internet
Pre mobile phones
Best of times

Depends. I’d be happy for my daughter, who is only 18 , to take a younger sibling abroad. She’s probably more sensible than me. My son is only 17 but I can’t in a million years see me letting him unless he changes into a completely different person in the next two years!

I have two DDs with that age gap and I would have let them at that age but they are sensible (now 22 and 25).

I'd let them go. They both agree. They are sensible

Sorry - DD's both agree