To think people are nice to you as long as you stay in your line

[Spicymarg2024]

Funny really. I got a new job this week and told some work colleagues that I'd be leaving my current job. Some have been lovely and asking questions and saying they will miss me. Others have seemed to have got a whole different personality.

I've had snide comments. Some colleagues now ignore me. Some know im leaving and just havent mentioned anything ( which is fine but we work closely). I feel like some people see I'm making a career progression and now we are not going to be at the same level they are making comments to bring me down. Before I felt I was no threat and the same as them and therefore they were all lovely.

Just find it very odd. Anyone else had this?

Yes when I changed job roles within a department I got some vile reactions, snide comments and backhanded compliments

People are so bloody strange. Why cant they congratulate you and wish you well. There are so many jealous insecure people in this world!

I know I feel like some people have been lovely. But then you can see others insecurities when others do well. I've been so happy and proud of myself this week. I have low self esteem and struggled to get to this position.

Just uncomfortable seeing people behave this way

Congratulations on the new job OP! The saying 'there's nowt so strange as folk' came about for a reason, and this is a prime example. Just ignore the people who are behaving badly, and keep smiling.

Good luck for the future!

Thank you. It's not upset me really, just surprised at some of the people and how they have behaved. Human behaviour is so odd sometimes.

I'm really excited that I got the job, so it's their problem if they have a problem.

Don’t take anything to heart. People who become momentarily petty and jealous can become potential allies or connections in the future. They might just need to adjust to the changing dynamics

They have just checked out of being your ‘work mate’ . No need to be polite as they are never going to see you again.

Glad it's not just me though and it has happened to other people

Has happened to my friend recently but she was teaching at a dire inner city school that struggles to recruit who are already short staffed.

This. You’ve stopped being part of the status quo, and that changes things, and unsettles people, especially for workplaces that don’t have a lot of people moving on. When we were living in a village where virtually everyone appeared to have been born there, married someone local and never left, it really unsettled some people that we put our house on the market and decided to leave the UK. I think both that it wasn’t a thing (people tended to up- or downsize within the village) and also it was received as an implicit criticism of them.

Funny you say that, I work in a school too

You've described it perfectly. It's subtle but it's there. It almost becomes a culture at work and then like you said its like they feel its a personal thing because to them its like why do you want to move on.

I don't think anyone apart from one colleague I became friends with even acknowledged me leaving my old job. I was only there for 5 years though. I did get emails on my last day asking me to update something before I logged off (to basically save someone else doing it - it wasn't part of my role), which I ignored.
I don't like a fuss though, a party or receiving a card/gift in front of everyone would have been mortifying so I was glad to just move on with no acknowledgement!

If they're annoyed or jealous that you're moving up, that's their issue. Strange that they would change their behaviour towards you because of it but that's on them.

I think it makes them question themselves and they are uncomfortable about that so they blame you for it.