Advice Needed Please

[BeyondTheGrave]

Hi, NC for this and hoping to get some advice as i dont think i am being unreasonable.

For context I am 30 weeks pregnant and have been split with the baby's dad for 6 months mainly due to some emotional/financial abuse and manipulation in the relationship. However there was other concerns such as addiction issues, etc that started to become apparent aswell, therefore contact between us since the split has been low and is now currently no contact after several threats were made to mine and the babys safety.

It's recently been brought to my attention that ex is on dating sites, this is something I have no interest in. However its apparent that he is very vocal these people hes chatting to and on his profile about the pregnancy and how deranged I am depriving him of any involvement for no reason at all.

I've had multiple friends make me aware of this being broadcasted on multiple sites but now I'm starting to get utterly vile messages from complete strangers (all women, it seems. Unless its him) calling me "a disgusting, disgrace of a mother", stating that I don't deserve my baby and they "hope the social take it away from me at and give it to ex or proper family, if it doesn't die from my poison first"

As you can imagine it's causing a lot of unnecessary stress and I'm becoming increasingly anxious about my own safety. Up until now I've had a somewhat peaceful and enjoyable pregnancy. Police can't or more so wont do anything, he denys it when they call him and they don't have time to trace or seek out these people messaging me.

What can I do?

Sorry for the length of the post 😊

Sorry to hear you’re going through this, my only advice would be as soon as you get a message through from someone you don’t recognise it - block them, don’t read the message as this will cause unnecessary stress for you and you don’t need to be seeing that when you know it’s all lies.

Hopefully it dies down asap for you, so you can move onto enjoying the last stage of pregnancy as much as you can before little one arrives 😊

Change your name and profile pic on social media and block anyone close to him, make your profile private.
Change your phone number

How come you're getting messages OP, has he posted your contact details? Wherever the messages are coming from, just block them, or stop looking at it, if it's on a website. You clearly don't need this sort of shit, so tell your friends you don't want to hear anything further about what he's said, done or posted, and just block him, and what he has to say out of your life.

He has been completely blocked from contacting me for a couple of months now, he personally can and does only send messages to my email. I cant change my email for multiple reasons but I have got another one that I now use as a primary one, which reduces that issue.

I really don't know how these people have got my details, which is why a small part of me is wondering if this is him, or people close to him, under false profiles. But I really could see him being the type to provide my personal information to people if he thought this would big him up as the good guy or something, although people hes chatting to could of searched his social media for posts from when we were together to see if I'm tagged.

It's madness though, as it seems to be alot of effort that strangers are ultimately going to for a bit of penis.

So he basically has it on his profile that his pregnant evil ex is keeping him from being involved with the baby? On his profile?? That's really weird. I know some people are blind to red flags but I cannot imagine a single person seeing that on a dating profile and thinking "ooh, I'll get involved with this one!"

It must be him sending you the messages. There's just no way multiple women are falling for it and deciding to insert themselves by sending such horrible messages. The whole thing about dying from your poison is way too emotionally charged for it to be from some random woman he's just met on an app.

So I gather they're all reaching out on SM? If it's people you don't know, presumably the messages are going through to message requests? I hate to say "just ignore it", but if that's the case, could you not just not read the message requests? Make your accounts private and don't add anyone you don't know.

I wish I had more useful advice, and I'm really sorry you're going through this. I definitely think it's all him.

It's 100% him sending those messages. No way has he managed to persuade multiple women to harass you on his behalf.

I agree - it's him, not actual women. He might feasibly run into one unstable loon who could be persuaded to contact you, but a whole swarm of them? No way.

Change your settings on all your SM so that you can't be found by strangers. Delete any random message requests or texts from people you don't know. Tell your friends that you don't want to hear any more about him. Try and focus on yourself and your lovely little baby.

I would create a standard response saying something like "I've made the police aware of these harassing messages and they willl be in touch".

Can you see the profiles of these women - are they new ones?