If I wasn't a slag myself

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Aibu to want to smash his face in.

If I wasn't a slag myself then I wouldn't be sticking up for woman who sleep around or enjoy themselves.

Laughing and joking about men who do it but as soon as I mention women who do they are trash!

Who said this to you?

No face smashing required. Just LTB.

One of my close friends new boyfriend!

What a disgusting man. I hope he isn't anyone important to you.

Then tell her he’s a loser.

IMO the term applies to both promiscuous men and women. (No judgement from me btw people should do what they want)

Unfortunately men doing it is generally more socially acceptable and the “lads,lads,lads” culture.

Whoever said that is a fool. Don’t smash anyone’s face in though it’s not worth it and just remember you can’t argue with stupid.

Turn to close friend and say, "He's not very bright."

Your friend better be careful with this one. I’ve got no respect for any man that talks trash about women.

Cracking taste in men she has there. YANBU btw

I can count all the men ive sleep with on one hand and still have fingers to count.
And guess what ive still been called a slag on MN and in real life.
Well you just can please some.
Dont let people get to you.

Another one he said. "Come on,
Lets me truthful here. No man wants or can trust a woman 100% if they've been about or done drugs.
Who's going to want to settle down with that"

I won't smash his face I'm obviously but me and another friend have had to leave.

I hope your friend is as shocked as you and us. He's one to throw back.

Fling back. As if he was he was a ticking time bomb!

What’s super funny is that the majority of men nowadays have done drugs in some form. So we’re supposed to trust them but not the other way round 🙄

He sounds like an absolute berk.

Don't really understand the slag business but I would never be with someone with a history of drugs

He's entitled to his opinion just ignore him? I wouldn't date someone who had loads of sexual partners or did drugs even in the past tbh

If one of my friends was happy to date men who hate women, we would very soon cease to be friends. If she’s attracted to such an open misogynist, who verbally abuses her friends, she’s as much of a problem as he is.

Thing is, this charmer of a man has double standards. It’s fine and funny when it’s men… but not women.

That’s the point of the OP.

He’s entitled not to want to date someone who has had ‘loads of sexual partners’. But that isn’t the issue. The issue is that he thinks it’s fine for men to fuck their way round town, but not fine for women. And while he is entitled to his hateful opinions, that doesn’t mean he’s entitled to express them without anyone challenging them.

He’s not entitled to tell the OP she’s a slag.

And no, the OP shouldn’t ‘just ignore’ his misogyny and sexism. It isn’t just a bit of fun. It’s like expecting a black person to ‘just ignore’ someone being racist towards them, or expecting someone who uses a wheelchair to put up with someone telling them they must be a benefits scrounger.

I've already said I don't really understand the slag part but my limited understanding is that he said its fine and he sticks up for women with multiple partners because he's done the same. I don't think it's that contentious is it? I'm sure whilst there's a spectrum of people with a wide range of sexual partners and I feel like those that have had more partners would be less likely to be put off by others that have had a larger number of partners

Omg someone said something like this around me years ago, I responded with 'ah a gentleman wouldn't voice an opinion like that' and he was mortified? I think more so than if I'd called him a dick etc. He got himself all wound up about why he was infact a gentleman and why only certain types of women see that side of him. I kept saying 'oh right' and conversing with other people at the table whilst he flailed around. Such an ick. I hope your friend is suitably put off and this will help her pick someone better! Also he probably fancied you hence the lashing out. Also icky.

Oh I wouldn't worry about it. These men always go on to cheat or act like controlling insecure little shits.

They want a pure innocent little wifey for themselves after taking advantage of all the "slags" while doing nothing different but still see themselves above women.

Just don't waste your time with them. Leave the thread and have fun. Go watch telly. Stop giving the bottom 5% of men your headspace. Be glad that they are obviously fools and not clever enough to hide their manipulative ways.

Of course we should trust them! They're men! And if we don't trust them then we should still defer to them as the top alpha and be grateful they let us hang off their arm (and paycheck - don't forget we are all golddiggers after their giro)

Your friend stayed there with him despite you and a friend having to leave due to his horrible, misogynistic and goady remarks?

Does she have form for prioritising men over her friends?

You’ve got this completely wrong.

The OP said that her friend’s boyfriend thinks it’s fine for men to sleep around, but if women do the same, those women are trash/slags. Then when the OP said that if it was OK for men it should be OK for women too, he told her that she ‘must be a slag as well’.