To ask if a deadbeat ever got his comeuppance or was regretful?

[Sreea]

I’m coping with awful behaviour from DS’s dad. I genuinely have never hated anyone in my life but him… I despise him. I know I need to sort that out for my own well-being but do these men EVER regret being so shit?

How old is he? You can expect some idiot behaviour from someone in their twenties. Should have grown up by thirties.

@jellymaker we have a 3.5 year old and he is 44.

Not sure it's the same but my dad was always crap and now as an adult I have v little contact,he has virtually no relationship with DD (sees her once a year) whereas she's very close to my mum, her partner & in-laws. so your DS will know when he's older who the decent parent is

Oh dear. I guess it is less likely at 44 then. All I can say is try to stay positive in interactions as longer term its less confrontational but easier said than done.

When my DDs DF got married last year, he had a humble conversation with me where he acknowledged how crap he’d been and how good a job I’d done anyway.

He’s still arrogant and awkward, but he’s been making more of an effort- DD is coming into preteen and she was a baby when we broke up.