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To be a bit freaked out by DD2 saying this

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Tigrela · 24/05/2024 01:38

Tonight when I was putting my 2 year old DD to bed she told me that 'the man was going to get her, she didn't want him to get her' when I asked why she was saying that she said, 'the man wants to snatch my nightdress off me, he wants to snatch the princesses off my nightdress' (she was wearing a princess nightdress). When I told DP he said that earlier today she kept talking about a man. DP works away usually and I am on maternity leave just now so she is with me all the time and never alone with anyone else but it's still freaked me out a bit though. Is this just the kind of random shite that 2 year old hit out with?

I know it sounds really stupid but I've been reading the ghost experiences thread and I think that's just got me a bit spooked 😂

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TimeForTeaAndG · 24/05/2024 01:42

Has she seen something on the telly that's frightened her?

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Tigrela · 24/05/2024 01:46

TimeForTeaAndG · 24/05/2024 01:42

Has she seen something on the telly that's frightened her?

I was wondering that, she watched Beauty and the Beast today but she's seen that loads before. She doesn't really get to watch the TV other than watching old school Disney films, animated Julia Donaldson stories and the Muzzy language programme. Sometimes she watches Bluey or Number locks but that's it and I can't think of there being a man she would get scared of coming to get her in any of them.

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dimsumfatsum · 24/05/2024 01:48

Was she looking into the corner of the room as she was saying this? I wouldn't be letting her sleep on her own if I were you.

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Tigrela · 24/05/2024 01:49

Ah wait! The man from the asylum in Beauty and the Beast who comes to take Maurice! When he came on today she was asking me who he was and what he was doing! Mystery solved. 😁

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Tigrela · 24/05/2024 01:50

dimsumfatsum · 24/05/2024 01:48

Was she looking into the corner of the room as she was saying this? I wouldn't be letting her sleep on her own if I were you.

No she wasn't but that's what had been freaking me out. I used to have horrendous night terrors as a child so I always worry about her having the same. I think it's definitely come from Beauty and the Beast now that I've thought about it.

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YoureALizardHarry11 · 24/05/2024 01:51

dimsumfatsum · 24/05/2024 01:48

Was she looking into the corner of the room as she was saying this? I wouldn't be letting her sleep on her own if I were you.

Why? Do you think a ghost will get her? 😦 😂 what’s the corner of the room got to do with anything? Sounds like you believe too many bullshit ghost stories.

Ankylo · 24/05/2024 04:19

My 2 year old has started saying 'no eagles?' As though he wants reassurance. He does only really watch animal related things on TV, but I'm not sure which one had an Eagle in it. I don't remember seeing one. Unless he had a dream!

RockAndRollerskate · 24/05/2024 04:32

When he was 2 my DS was talking about how the lady was going to knock on the door, come in the house and take her head off.

Like the character from Twirlywoos… that one took a while to decipher!!

Wordsmithery · 24/05/2024 05:48

Evidence, were it needed, that Beauty and the Best is completely unsuitable for two year olds... Especially when you are concerned about night terrors.

rwalker · 24/05/2024 06:05

My oldest when he was 3 was adiment there was a lady Who used to be in his bedroom at night
mind went into overdrive as old lady used to live in house .I presume she’d died in that room freaked us out but he didn’t seem bothered so never engaged with it

Fudgetheparrot · 24/05/2024 06:12

Wordsmithery · 24/05/2024 05:48

Evidence, were it needed, that Beauty and the Best is completely unsuitable for two year olds... Especially when you are concerned about night terrors.

yeah a lot of old school Disney is surprisingly intense- a lot of it is listed as 6+ on Disney plus. More modern ones like Frozen aren’t so bad (although a bit more boring as a result imo). I would stick to CBeebies stuff for a while

NicoleSkidman · 24/05/2024 06:31

This is why old Disney films are not appropriate for 2 year olds. They’re really dark and full of strange messages that aren’t ok by todays standards.

dottiedodah · 24/05/2024 06:38

Yes mystery solved! As above pp said lots of dark themed in the older Disney. I remember when my DD watched Dumbo and cried talking about it. Apparently I was the same with Bambi too.just Cbeebies for now.

fieldsofbutterflies · 24/05/2024 06:48

I'm glad other people are agreeing that Beauty and the Beast isn't really appropriate for a 2yo!

lottiegarbanzo · 24/05/2024 06:49

Frozen is a PG not a U. There's fighting, death of parents and a lot of peril. Fairytales are inherently dark and full of conflict.

i wouldn't start with any Disney films until older.

Carly944 · 24/05/2024 07:58

Disney movies were made to target children's worst fears.

That's why a lot of mothers and fathers die in Disney movies

Whatthechicken · 24/05/2024 09:02

My children used to be quite concerned about some of the stories we read, some of the most popular are very dark. Hansel and Gretel, Goldilocks, Little Red Riding Hood - in times gone by, I guess they were used as warnings to children in order to alert them to dangers and to keep them safe (by frightening them).

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 24/05/2024 09:04

Kids say weird shit. Not scary, but my oldest had a toy orca called “Must be love”. No idea why. Until years later there were old music videos on tv. In the vid for It must be love, by Madness there’s an orca in the swimming pool.

RomeoMcFlourish · 24/05/2024 09:09

My children would have been terrified of the older Disney films at 2, they didn’t start dipping into Beauty and the Beast, Snow White etc. until they were about 5/6.
They were happy watching the more modern ones like Tangled from about 4. Admittedly they are quite sensitive children, but even if they weren’t I still wouldn’t let them watch the older Disney films at very young ages. There’s so much else out there to choose from that’s more suitable.

Reallybadidea · 24/05/2024 09:13

My daughter kept talking about bad men with guns shooting people when she was about 2. We didn't have the TV on during the day when she was awake and no smartphones in those days, so I assume she'd picked something up from another kid at preschool.

Singleandproud · 24/05/2024 09:14

PG movies are for 8 and up. A child might have seen it lots before but as they develop they take different things from the film which can be scary.

Stick to U programmes for her Sofia the First and similar might be better if she likes Princesses.

Carly944 · 24/05/2024 09:21

I remember as a child I used to always be afraid of bad men in my room

It definitely came from watching children's movies.

A lot of children's movies have a bad, scary guy.

If you look online, Disney movies were planned to affect children's emotions in a deep way.

That is why lots of those movies have the mother or father dying.

Mamabear04 · 24/05/2024 09:31

My 2 year old started talking about 'a man' to the point i thought it might be the ghost of the man who lived in the house before us and who passed away (she didnt know this)....and then she asked for the man to come to her birthday party and it turned out the man was my brother as she couldn't say his name yet.

Also worth saying that she also had nightmares about things stealing or eating her toys (mainly ghosts). It's just a developmental stage but keep an eye out just incase she is actually coming into contact with 'the man'. Also keep an eye on what she is watching on TV etc as it might be feeding into her nightmares.

Carly944 · 24/05/2024 09:34

Mamabear04 · 24/05/2024 09:31

My 2 year old started talking about 'a man' to the point i thought it might be the ghost of the man who lived in the house before us and who passed away (she didnt know this)....and then she asked for the man to come to her birthday party and it turned out the man was my brother as she couldn't say his name yet.

Also worth saying that she also had nightmares about things stealing or eating her toys (mainly ghosts). It's just a developmental stage but keep an eye out just incase she is actually coming into contact with 'the man'. Also keep an eye on what she is watching on TV etc as it might be feeding into her nightmares.

I do think that children can see ghosts.

My mum told me that my older brother constantly talked about a woman in the room. He said she was looking at him in his cot. And that she was talking to him.

He described her to my mum. What she was wearing. And he said her name.

It was the name of my mums mum. Who had passed away before he was born

Topofthemountain · 24/05/2024 09:36

Carly944 · 24/05/2024 09:21

I remember as a child I used to always be afraid of bad men in my room

It definitely came from watching children's movies.

A lot of children's movies have a bad, scary guy.

If you look online, Disney movies were planned to affect children's emotions in a deep way.

That is why lots of those movies have the mother or father dying.

To be fair to Disney the dead parents (especially a mother) is pretty much the theme running through all fairy tales. Disney have simply monetised on this.