Normal?

[Summersummersun]

9 year old boy, had to come on a very quick errand dropping something to a friend this evening. 10 minutes maximum spent in the house, and half of that at least spent pulling on my coat/spinning himself round me and humming loudly. So distracting. He also said a couple of times “let’s just go now”. So rude!

He didn’t used to behave like this when he was a toddler. I asked him what on earth he was playing at and he said he was bored. He doesn’t do this in school (said he’s never been bored at school!).

Surprised that some people are saying it’s normal for a nine-year-old to behave like this. If he was four, yes. But not at nine.

Thank you for explaining that’s very clear.

@Marblessolveeverything his dad actually said about how he was going to embarrass him at school drop off…a little while before they left DS said quietly, please don’t embarrass me. DP reassured him he wouldn’t, but to remember how this feels, that even worrying about being embarrassed let alone actually being embarrassed isn’t nice, and that’s how mummy felt. DS said he felt guilty. I believe him, but lets see if he does it again!

I need to expose him to boredom. He loves to read, build Lego etc so rarely complains about being bored at home, but we don’t go to church or anywhere really where he has to just sit and be for short periods of time.

@KreedKafer it is perfectly normal for a nine year old to have an off moment or day. Their brains are still developing and their impulse control can waver at puberty.

I've seen my two sons at around that age have the very odd out of character wobble. Which saw me going back to respected books to identify what if anything physically or more important neurological was happening at that stage.

I always found mine could be out of sorts just before a development leap. So while this appeared as possible sleep disturbance younger. It appeared as very rare out of character behaviour at this age.

My son is 10 and no way would he have done that

If he had, I'd have told him to go and play in the garden

Not ok for a NT 9 year old, no.

When he first started humming while you were trying to talk to your friend, and hanging off you, did you sharply put a stop to the behaviour? ‘Stop that please DS, we’re trying to talk.’