Leaving working next month - what would you do?

[Happytobeeme]

I’m finishing my job next month and I’m wondering if I should say something to my colleague or just walk out and never think about them again.

With everything that is happening in the world war, famine ……it got me thinking why people are rude and mean, genuinely I can’t understand it. It’s harder to be like this than be nice.

Anyway this particular colleague has been very mean to me from the first day I started. Speaking to me in a very dogmatic manner, commenting on what I wear, ignoring me, slamming doors, storming off. But they are very clever and sly in the sense they know when to put on the nice colleague show in front of management. They are also mean to other staff in our department (people they feel wont benefit them as such)Like I said I genuinely can’t understand it!!!!

so part of me is thinking of saying something to them …..like for example when I say goodbye in the evening they ignore me - should I say are you ok because when I say goodbye you don’t respond.
Part of me feels that people who act like this to others shouldn’t get away it, they should be called out (they probably won’t care).

so my question is what would you do? Say something or not?

Just walk out and never think about them again. Don't open up a painful convo on your way out. They sound like a bellend, be glad you won't be working together anymore.

What does war and famine have to do with saying goodby to you or slamming doors?

Just leave and forget about it. Not everyone is a disciple of the #bekind gods

Say nothing and just leave. I’ll be doing the same tomorrow. Most people know I’m leaving and I will have a lovely farewell with them. Then there are a couple of people who I will just be glad never to see again.

Just leave it, annoying though this person is. Whatever the reason for them being like this, it's probably not because no one has ever mentioned it before. They are just unpleasant.

It just got me thinking, there is so much sadness in the world at the minute so why go out of your way to be mean to people when you don’t know their story or when they have never done anything to warrant it. But like you said not everyone is a disciple of the bekind gods.

Then this is your answer from your own opinion, there are worse things going on in the world so just keep your head held high, stay professional and move on. They are still going to ‘get away with it’ even if you do call them out for not saying bye, I doubt they are afraid of mild confrontation from someone they don’t like and won’t see again.

I'd be tempted to slip a high dose laxative into the food 😆

No idea what "be kind gods" means. Personally think people should be respectful of others and, as a bare minimum, not be sh*tty for no reason. I try to be pleasant to colleagues and strangers and generally people are pleasant back.

As you are leaving it's a bit late to try sorting this out now and I don't think you'd get a resolution you'd be happy with. I'd just leave without acknowledging them and celebrate never having to put up with their prickliness ever again.

You're more likely to regret saying something to someone like that, than keeping schtum and leaving with dignity.

It just gives them one final chance to have a pop at you, don't give them the satisfaction.

The time to say something has passed. Leave it.

Say "bye" as usual, directed squarely at this person. If this person ignores you as usual, say to them - loudly enough for them and others to hear - "I hope life gets better for you [name] because you must be a deeply unhappy person to be that much of an ignorant fucking cunt"

And leave

And don't look back

And never think about this person again

That made me laugh out loud!!!! Part of me would love to have the courage to say that…..I’d love to see their expression.

Personally i would let management know from the perspective of the ppl left behind.

On the last day, I would just walk out without a word to show them how little they mean to me and give them a taste of their own medicine.

The one thing a bully hopes to achieve is a negative reaction. Do not give them this. You can walk out and say many things to this person but they won't 'learn' from it, they will sit smugly knowing they have done what they set out to do, which is essentially to be a cunt to others. Never let them know they have affected you. It's what they want.