DS5 doesn’t much like kindergarten and recently has been very reluctant to go, he cried every morning this week (I thought it was because we kept him home on Monday because of illness and he wanted more of the same). Bath time tonight DW saw a bruise on rear shoulder and bite mark on front of his shoulder. I was called in to take pictures. Afterwards I could hear DW using quite an aggressive tone to tell DS he should hit back at anyone who hurts him. I went in and told him that he hadn’t done anything wrong and that we were going to make sure it wouldn’t happen again, he asked me to take over bath time and DW went out to contact teacher. A little I asked what the teacher said. After DS bedtime I got a load of abuse saying that it was my fault that he is so soft because I am not hard enough on him, I said that I disagree and that it was more likely that her temper caused him to lack confidence. A few weeks ago he banged his head on the dining table whilst looking for a piece of Lego and received an almighty bollocking from his mother. I find it very hard to walk the line between being a supportive member of team parent and a supportive father. I think that I am not being too soft on my DS but rather not intervening on his behalf enough.
I basically tried to get all of this off my chest to DW about half an hour ago and she would not listen or even engage. I’m writing this from the spare room.
I’ve been on here for a few months reading and commenting. The reason I joined was to get advice on stuff like this but I always stopped myself from posting. But I am really worried about my family now.