Should i be worried about this person in my friend’s life?

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Hi so I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. A good friend of mine who i’ve known for years has met this woman online who my friend has become very close to in a short space of time. This woman is about 10 years older than her and seems to live the high life on social media. This woman is married. My friend is too and she has 3 young kids also she recently had her third. This friend of hers is constantly complimenting her. They talk on the phone every night. This woman lives in a different country from my friend but they’re talking about meeting up. She seems obsessed with my friend and tells her about doing online modelling work posing in bikinis etc. nothing wrong with compliments and even doing modelling work but the issue here is that they have opened up to each other so fast and I think there is ulterior motives going on. At best an emotional affair (physical affair when they meet up) at worst grooming and exploitation. There’s something about her that I can’t place but something seems off. Am I just being crazy? I’m worried because my friend is vulnerable. She has additional needs and suffers from low self esteem

Just tell her husband, surely he lives in the same house as her and sees her more often than you do to intervene or what ever he feels is appropriate

There's no way on earth that this woman who for some reason keeps telling your friend to post lingerie pictures is actually the rich and beautiful woman she says she is.

However, I also strongly doubt there's any risk of trafficking. Traffickers aren't interested in married women with three kids whose disappearance would trigger a massive missing persons case, not when the world is full of younger and more desperate women with no family who'll try to look for them.

My guess is that, at some point, this woman will ask your friend for money or her bank details or something like that, and that when your friend refuses she'll try and blackmail her with the lingerie pictures. There is nothing you can do about that. Your friend is an adult. You say she has 'additional needs' but she has also has a husband and three kids; I doubt she'd be classed as a vulnerable adult.

Please stop posting 'bump' on this thread. People have replied to you. Stop being so needy and over-invested.

That's up to your friend (and to some extent her husband). You're not her mother.

I'd also be concerned if that was my friend, but I'm not sure what you can do except make some gentle suggestions to her if it comes up in conversation - are you sure she's not using you, or whatever. Perhaps as others have said it'll fizzle out in time.

Yes definitely. I’ll sit down and talk to her. She tells me this woman is amazing and is unlike any other friend that she’s ever had but I’m not sure how genuine she is

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