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Nomorellama · 23/05/2024 16:41

work related.

i hate my job. Reason being is my manager is impossible. Manager is the an odd combination of incredibly aloof and micromanaging. Ie will ask you to do something and then tear it to shreds but if you ask for a steer to my more in line with their expectations you’re dismissed as do what you want.

the ask constantly changes, to the extent it’s like living on the twilight zone. I’ll be told my ideas were stupid only 10 days later to do exactly as I suggested but after much time wasted doing something else. My confidence is shot and I find myself panicking and crying.

here’s the thing, I’ve only been here 5 months. I was made redundant 6 months into my prior role and then left my role before after 1 year (left as was offered a huge pay rise).

if I start the job hunt now will I look a) like I can’t hold done a job and b) like a job hopper?

really worried about this, but I’m so miserable

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Nomorellama · 23/05/2024 18:14

So even though it’s the 3rd job in a year?

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FlyingHorses · 23/05/2024 19:37

Poor you, sounds horrible. All I can say is I’ve had more jobs than hot dinners, but as it’s a shortage occupation it’s not much of an issue. Give the correct amount of notice, behave professionally, and then be on your way somewhere better! My view has always been that it’s not prison, you are allowed to change jobs when you want to, especially if it’s causing you as much distress as this one.

Thepartnersdesk · 23/05/2024 19:51

Is it an in demand industry? Is it worth registering with a recruiter for 'the right role '.

That way it makes it more 'i was headhunted' scenario.

Nomorellama · 23/05/2024 20:00

Thepartnersdesk · 23/05/2024 19:51

Is it an in demand industry? Is it worth registering with a recruiter for 'the right role '.

That way it makes it more 'i was headhunted' scenario.

I’m not sure, I was headhunted for this role actually but by their internal ‘talent’ team.

i just can’t believe how low I feel

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Thepartnersdesk · 23/05/2024 21:32

Take some steps forward by putting out feelers.

Getting interest in your CV will hopefully remind you that you are sought after.

I have a boss like this so I sympathise. I'm only hanging in because she's on a temporary contract and the rest of work is good.

Bonbon21 · 24/05/2024 13:07

You know the minute you walk out the door for the last time you will feel so much better don't you?
All this self doubt and anxiety is brought on by the poor management which in itself is a form of bullying.
Look after you.. walk away as soon as you can.. even if you have to eat beans for a month it will be better than this.
Deep breath and do it.. they dont deserve you...

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