Hopefully it's OK to post this here. I've asked a few questions regarding this situation over time and always got good advice.
I met a guy online a while back. Long story short (or as short as i can get it), a few months in I found out he was a bit of terrible person and broke up with him, he was not happy with this and proceeded to abuse and harass me for months. My very young daughter witnessed alot of this and it affects her badly to this day. He was found guilty in court and myself and my daughter got a long term restraining order against him. After court, him and his new partner moved and bought a house along the road from me. Therefore I regularly have to see him at the shops, when I'm out a walk, etc as its a small town.
So were now at the point where the restraining order is due to expire next month. I'm aware that I can't get them renewed as despite him moving here and often walking past me, he's never actually approached me BUT my daughter is absolutely terrified that when it runs out he will approach her or try to hurt us again. She can't sleep at night for worrying about this. She knows he lives near by and she's very scared. As I said, I dated him for a very short period of time so I hardly know him, I know (because he admitted to me) that he was bad to women in the past and had an ex wife and that relationship also required police involvement in the end. My question is, would it be out of order for me to reach out and contact the ex wife just to get an idea if this guy will remain a danger to us or if she thinks we'll be fine now. Would that be really weird for me to do that? She had a very long relationship with him so will have known him well but I also know she was glad to have washed her hands of him so may not appreciate me contacting her (and I would understand and respect that)