To think friend is mugging me off?

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I bought us tickets to two separate events. She never paid me back and said twice she still owes me for it.

Today I’ve just had enough and felt mugged off and text her in the group chat to say - please pay me back for X. She’s now suddenly apologetic and saying she thought she’d paid me there and then when I bought them.

Hate thinking badly of people but she clearly didn’t think she’d paid me straight away when she pointed out herself she owed me. Just feels like she was hoping I’d forget.

So you texted her in a group chat before chasing her privately for the money? That seems a bit OTT

I hate it when people do this
Sometimes you have to be direct and don't pay for things in advance without her paying you first

She’s apologised, so have you now received the money?

This is why I stopped buying things for people because 1) I hate chasing money and 2) some people are crap at paying back, even family or close friends

Well we were talking about the event itself so it was in conversation.

Not received it yet, she asked for my bank details, which I know she already has.

Give her the details and tell her you need the money in the next hour as have something to pay out for

Then never buy tickets etc again without the money first, I’ve had to learn the hard way too!

Yes that’s sadly what I’ll have to do from now on.

I say sadly because you should be able to trust the people you’re buying for will just pay you back. She’s had months and not bothered.

Some people just don’t have that urgency to pay people back for things. My partners friend has paid for accommodation for all of them on his credit card to attend a festival, my partner transferred him as soon as he put the message in the group chat and 2 other guys transferred their portion when they got paid the next week. But there’s 3 other guys who haven’t paid, saying ‘yeah yeah I must transfer you’ ‘I know I owe you that!’

I think it’s a mix of not having the money, pure avoidance of seeing your own bank account go down and complete disregard for the financial position you’ve put a friend in.

However, OP, this is something in life where you need to take the bull by the horns to get your money. No gentle reminders every now and then. Always need to make it clear before you buy that you need the money right away (preferably before purchasing!) or on payday. Revolut and transfer requests, daily texts if they go past the agreed date. Don’t just allow someone to mug you off either.

Yes it is sad. After I had my new baby and was on maternity pay and struggling with bills I offered to pay as long as friends paid me back, waited ages for some of them to actually pay me. Despite knowing my financial situation, poor really

So she owes the OP for tickets to two separate events and then lied about knowing if she’d paid her back or not?

THAT is 'a bit OTT'/piss-taking.

OP, in future no money in advance, no booking service!