Almost 3 years ago my DH and I decided to follow our dreams and relocate 500 miles away to the coast once the DC were grown. We made that dream happen, found a house and asked MIL to come with us ( She no longer has her own DH.) At first she said no but then several months into house hunting she changed her mind so we changed our search criteria and found our dream home. Long story short and several disappointments with sales falling through, we finally made it to our dream home a early this year but thats the end of the dream. Just over a week in we realised MIL is a raging, functioning alcoholic! We thought she had been in recovery for years. She is making our lives hell. She has gone behind our backs and told family and friends that she hates her son and he is evil, that she wishes she had never come here, we dont allow her to be warm, she has no control of her life (We asked her to cut down on the alcohol,) and now the latest, we are kicking her out. She doesnt pay a penny to be here, we feed her, run her car, pay all her bills except her mobile and now this feels like its the last kick in the teeth. Ive found out that one of the housing associations she has told she is being made homeless have asked her for a letter of proof. If I give her this she will get housed and we will be relieved but it is wrong to give upon her. Should we carry on trying to get her to stop drinking. Im thinking that if she hasnt stopped now she's 81 she never will. If we give her the letter confirming we're making her homeless then the rest of the family will think weve kicked her out but if I dont write it for her then DH and me will be miserable and so will she. Im at the point of passed caring and want her gone. ABIU??