Am I being precious?

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I had a hostile split with ex. We have a two year old. A lot of what went on between us has caused me significant anxiety which I am currently assessing in therapy. I have asked that he doesn’t contact me late in the evening unless it’s an emergency, as it often means I can’t sleep because my mind is then very much on him again. I thought this request was reasonable but again tonight he’s contacted me after 10pm. It’s not as simple as switching my phone off unfortunately as I am ‘on call’ for my pregnant neighbour. Am I being precious and making a drama?

YANBU. Ask again, or block his number within the hours you don’t want contacting

You can have an exception to a nighttime setting on your phone, OP.

If you put your pregnant neighbour’s phone number as an exception, her calls would come through while all other numbers would go to voicemail.

With an iPhone it is Settings; Focus; Do Not Disturb

You set the times your phone is in Do Not Disturb (say 9pm to 7am) and you add any numbers that you wish to allow.

That way your neighbour can contact you but your ex can’t.

You know he’s doing it deliberately, to destabilise you?

Avoid telling him anything that might indicate any vulnerability on your part. He will always use it against you.

He’s not going to listen to you because he doesn’t give a fuck. Block him and only unblock when you really need to contact him.

Put your phone on do not disturb, put your neighbour as an exception. Job's a good'un. Alternatively block him every night at 6pm and unblock again at 8am.

Sorry you're dealing with such a twat, giving him as little response as possible is the best way. He's doing it because he knows it upsets you and he wants that. Don't show him that it does.