Had a friend for few years now. Lately she’s been drinking at night, her bf is at pub or on way home from work, she puts heels on etc for him, I hear her stomp across the outside (our floor is floor flat)… knocks my door then bangs and bangs when I don’t answer. I said to her prior that I’m doing things putting pictures up etc random things and while at my door she’s saying how she wants me to drink with her and then said “ok whatever” in a stroppy way. This was mid week and she knows I barely drink. Few nights later her partner was in a&e as he something in his eye at work. Again she’s dressed up for him with heels etc, I’m cleaning this is about 7pm, got my music on and it’s right next to me in the kitchen while I was washing up so quite loud for me to hear the door, until I hear bang bang bang. I answer the door and she said angrily why aren’t you answering the door I need to use ur phone as mines broke, so she calls her bf and says are u still in a&e and he says yeh it takes ages sorry baby, and she said in a funny way oh well I need wine and I’m all dressed up for you, I’m a bit annoyed at you and chrissy (me) to be honest as you said you would try to be quick at a&e and chrissy took ages to answer the door. She kept saying to him over the phone well I’m all dressed up for you I thought we could do a couple of lines of coke and drink but whatever!
Both these times and loads of times before makes me feel tense like I can’t get on with things as she bangs so hard I don’t want my door getting broke so I have to stop what I’m doing, and when ur in the zone of things u just wanna get on with stuff…. She gets her bf to get her pantyliners and wine mainly EVERYDAY after work when he’s been working all day. If he doesn’t she knocks on my door and asks and asks until I give in because she drains me. Please go shop for me bla bla bla….
Guy upstairs I have a good neighbour rapor with. Now he sells a bit of coke, but nice believe it or not. She asked me to knock on his door about 9times like so persistent and I was like I’ve not done that before but somehow she has a tactic of getting people to do as she asks so I did. I Got her coke she gave me the money. Next night she knocks on his door again and he doesn’t answer, third day this neighbour spoke to her bf and said can you ask those two to not knock on my door man to man and my friends bf told us this. So now I feel embarressed.
i had around £15 in my bank a while ago, her bf was out working late and she asked me sooo nicely over and over puppy dog eyes for £11 for fags until I gave in as I just couldn’t battle this on the promise her partner would be paid the next day. I was left with £3… I didn’t get paid back until about four days later.
She had a top she was gonna return I said I liked it and would pay her when I get paid. The day I got paid she asked for it, I said I’m waiting for my tablet to charge for my banking app, will have a bath as I had the flu and would then would transfer it. She said fine. But only 20 mins later she’s banging on my door I need that money now (this was about 15 min before Tesco due to close and when she was over she hinted she needed to go Tesco but I said my baths running so I wasn’t going out ) so I thought fuck this and emptied the bath feeling all tense and transferred the money. Yet I’ve had to wait for money before? I felt ill and run down and she made me feel tense on top of that.
Now my main frustrations are this…. They have a child, they have explosive arguments she shouts at him, chucks him out, he comes to mine to give her time to cool down, he’s fine with me, now one of these occasions she started raising her voice in my flat (kid asleep we can hear on monitor) and I said to them both please take this out my flat my home is peaceful I don’t want this so they did. But while in the communial bit she said to me if the camera picks up them arguing from the owners of the building and social services are called then it’s my fault if they get called out?! Her bf told her not to talk and shout at and to me like this.
Week before this she kicked the lift with her bf in it, lift got jammed and fire brigade came out. He shouts back at her a lot too
Now believe it or not we have had some great times as friends and initially I was worried about her as they are having relationship troubles. We went to a park on a hot day with her kid just me and her it was lovely and I said to her are u sure this place is free parking can we go somewhere else and she said no it’s free I like it here. I got a fine in the post! I said to her please pay towards it as I looked around for signs couldn’t see any but I did ask u a couple times are u certain it’s free and I suggested going somewhere else. She then screamed at me fuck off I’m not paying that. Fuck off chrissy! AIBU to ask towards the parking ticket?! When it was a day for both of us but she insisted this place was free even though I asked a few times, she said she knew for sure it was free. I’ve had other issues with lifts with her in the past and it all fell on me then too.
The night before I asked this, her bf was kicking her door for hours as she kicked him out with no shoes, wouldn’t even give him his van keys so he could sleep in the van. Now maybe behind closed doors he did things wrong but for the sake of the neighbours she should have given him his keys for his van, he banged her door with my shoes outside my door, one of them split! He said he’s so sorry and will pay me back to replace the shoes. (Always left dirty shoes out my door for years no problem) Now him banging so long is wrong but I felt his frustration tbh.
Neighbours called the police. Unsure if it’s me as I’m next door to her. The police raided my flat! And hers. And before they came up she quickly asked me to cover for her for the sake of their kid. I’m not sure what she meant.
I am soooo drained. My ex was into drugs etc too, im not … I’m quite boring i dont even smoke. I did a little coke with them three (my ex included) before they had their kid… maybe peer pressure I don’t know but it’s not for me. And now I am re building my life.
I’m effectively now over £100 out of pocket (fine and shoes). Yet she thinks me asking towards the fine is wrong? I’m single, have to manage so much alone, he buys her anything she wants she has no concept. Tells me both their money is both of theirs he earns much more yet when I said about my shoes she said that’s on him not me so it’s like it’s both their money when it suits her.
she said she has a big gas and electric bill to pay (I was thinking we all do not just u) and when I said can u pay me after the bill that’s when she shouted at me, she even shoved me out the way. He gets her at least two bottles of wine each night, shoes and clothes she wants, their fags etc too yet can’t afford to help me (she claims I’m her best friend!)… they provide well for their child too before it sounds like they don’t because they really do.
we have had a nice friendship believe it or not, and she’s a good mum, but drinking etc when the kid is in bed isn’t great.
the neighbours have had enough of their fights, yet because I became close to her they come to me when they fall out.
now I want fuck all to do with her but I need money towards this as it’s gonna effect me financially a lot, but I don’t know if IABU?!