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To think the CSA are wrong

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Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:36

Hi all looking for some advice about the CSA.
My partner has a daughter who he doesn't see despite taking the mum to court three times to have access.
It has financially crippled him and he cannot afford another court battle at the moment.
He pays for his little one but due to losing his job and getting new employment his wages have dropped by around 28k a year.
He spoke to CSA and explained the situation and was told to upload payslips. He was then told they would reassess in February of this year.
He then got a letter stating he would have to pay more when he queried this he was told to upload payslips,again he did and then heard nothing. He phoned them again and was told basically there was a back log and they would get to it eventually ( and I quote as I witnessed the conversation)
He's now received a letter saying he has to pay nearly 1k a month. He has phoned and been told they lady could see the payslips and has no idea why the amount was as high
The letter has kept his old wage and then states he owes 9k in missed payments.
He has all the bank statements to prove he has paid on time every month . The lady today said he had to ring back tomorrow.
He simply cannot afford this and we are both at our wits end. The issue is not the maintenance but the face there's been no reassessment and they have never mentioned arrears.
Can anyone give any advice on this ?
TIA

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paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 16:39

a new partner I am guessing?

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:41

No I'm not new ?

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paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 16:42

im guessing his ex has not received a penny in all these months

paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 16:42

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:41

No I'm not new ?

if you’re honest
how long have you been together?

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:44

I can't really see why you would be interested? If you have no advice in terms of the question asked.

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Greys1995 · 21/05/2024 16:44

Even when not in employment you still owe child support, so it will just add up in arrears every month. I’m sure if you split up and he was paying YOU this every month you wouldn’t be complaining.

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:46

The money has been paid every month he hasn't missed any payments we share a bank account so I can see them being sent

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Gazelda · 21/05/2024 16:47

I'd suggest to him that he gathers all evidence together. Copy pay slips, bank statements, dates and times and summary of phone convos etc

Then when he speaks with someone tomorrow he can ask if it's possible to email everything to show he's been paying and when the recalculation should be effective from.

If that doesn't help, he should insist on this being escalated as the delay is causing him hardship.

Keep calm, polite, professional.

paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 16:49

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:44

I can't really see why you would be interested? If you have no advice in terms of the question asked.

ah it’s new

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:50

We've been together for several years @paprikaforever hope that satisfies the curiosity 🙄

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BusyCM · 21/05/2024 16:51

So how much does he actually earn? You didn't say.

And how much has he been sending if he can't afford the full amount?

Pandabear121 · 21/05/2024 16:51

@Gazelda thank you will organise as much as possible

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paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 19:29

it heard anyone call it the CSA for many years!

paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 19:31

the CMS didn’t need to ask for his pay slips

The CMS will find out your child’s other parent’s income from HMRC (the tax office).

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