To feel sick with worry over house purchase

[Tiamaria86]

First time buyers and we completed today. It doesn't feel like how I thought it would. I just feel sick with worry and on closer inspection the house needs so much work.

I just keep thinking something will go terribly wrong and we're stuck.

I felt exactly like this when I bought my first house. EXACTLY. It was a total terrifying anticlimax.

it gets better!

Me too. Took me ages to get myself to enjoy it. Try to focus on the long term and DO NOT LOOK AT RIGHT MOVE FOR THE NEXT YEAR 😂

Completely natural thought. Take a step from all the house stuff tonight.

It’s a very normal feeling and I had it with each of my 3 properties Give it time and you can make it your new secure home.

I felt wing-clipped when we signed and got the keys. It does get better. Sleep on it! You don't have to do all the work to it at once. We've only just started 7 years on.

Congratulations!

Thanks everybody, good to know its a normal feeling. We've bought an old house and now I just keep thinking we should have gone for a new build!

Having moved house for the umpteenth time back in February this year, we are only just beginning to feel a little bit settled. Like you, we discovered far more needing to be done to the house than we originally thought or planned for, but we’re plodding through and are determined to settle.
Don’t worry or panic, you’ll end up loving your new home once you’ve put your own touches on the place 😊

It's completely normal! I actually sat down and cried the first evening I moved in because I thought I'd made the worst mistake of my life. 10 years later I'm still in the same flat and absolutely love it.

In my experience houses of any age are a pain in the butt 😆 but congratulations on completing! Getting to exchange and completion on our house has probably been the most difficult thing in the past four years.

100% normal, in my experience. I cried (not tears of joy!) when we got the keys to our first property and saw what it’s real state was.

Yes, very normal feeling. As is sitting in shock in the house when you first move in.

I felt a bit panicky but I think part of that was the unfamiliarity of the house. It hadn't become 'home'. That feeling passed quite quickly, especially once we'd starting doing a bit of painting, which really transformed it even without doing anything more expensive. That was an old house too, but I prefer them even though I'm always worried about something going wrong!!

We felt the same when we moved into our house (100+ years old) from a 1950s house. Completely overwhelmed and wondering what we had done. I cried for the first night.

Fast forward 15 years and it is truly our home. Couldn't imagine being anywhere else. Lots of people comment on how homely it feels. It's normal to feel like you are feeling but it will pass. Congrats on your new home!

I've never had this, but it is a totally normal feeling I gather. You've just made the biggest purchase ever, of course it's nerve-wracking and you're likely to worry about whether you've done the right thing. I only don't feel that way because I seem to be an unusually 'Well, this is the bed I've made and I'm going to lie in it' kind of person.

Our current house needed a lot of work and was dark and very not us with 70s brown and orange kitchen and bathrooms but honestly I was so delighted to have twice as much space and not have 4 of us in a two-bed flat anymore that I didn't care, so try to look at the advantages it's bringing you.

And congratulations on your new home!

When we moved into our current home 12 years ago I hated it. I loved our old house, had to move for an extra bedroom, there was little within budget at the time, I had vivid dreams of moving back to our old house and felt absolutely crushed to wake up and find we weren't there.
It took time, a lot of time. But as each room was completed and made 'our own' the feelings lessened and there's no way I'd move away from where I am now, I love our home.
I think it will get better for you too.

we moved from a large three bedroom house to a two bedroom doer upper the first three months i wanted to move back to my fabulous bathroom and huge kitchen but then had to keep telling myself we own this one (mortgage free ) we only rented the old house and four years later we now have a bathroom and kitchen that is our choice the other rooms are decorated to our taste and no regrets now

Thanks all I'm sat up worrying now and can't sleep. I'm actually dry heaving like I need to be sick. This is so unusual.for me, I normally just take things in my stride.

DH never really wanted the house and I kind of talked him into it so also feeling guilt and that I've let my family down and blown all our money 😥

@Tiamaria86 bless you. It will get better! Don’t feel guilty, I’m sure you had your reasons. Why did you like the house in the first place?

Great location, right by the beach and a lovely park. Excellent schools. Nice quiet street but close to lovely shops and restaurants.

We've been living in a 2 bedroom 1st floor flat with 2 kids in a horrible area so I was so so desperate to move.

I felt like this too. I even felt the same with the second (dream) home we bought.
It lasted under a week each time, then I re fell in love.

New builds are shite. You've made the right decision. Congratulations!

Does it really need that much work?
Quite normal for survey to say "ooh, we are not sure about roof". If roof no leaky, roof good for another year.
Ditto drains and electrics.

You wish you'd have bought a new build?!

Oh, crikey OP!

Then you really would be worried and anxious!! 😂😂😂

At least an older home is a strong solid one, and won't fall down in 5 years.

You’ve just made a big life changing decision. Completely normal to feel a bit anxious about it.

My mother said she burst into tears when she officially bought her first home because of the amount of work to be done. It wasn't a joyous day but she is very attached to the house now.